I should add that i'm still very much in love with this person.
2007-02-12 03:01:39 · 16 answers · asked by smokey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Breaking up with someone and being their friend is like your dog dying and your mom saying you can keep it
2007-02-19 19:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by terrysgirl0206 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut em off for a while, give each other some space to breathe and sort things out on each of your own times. Then, when you've moved on (and you WILL move on), you can check back in with that person.
If they're not ready, that's fine too. Just letting them know you're there and still care as a friend is enough and respect their space.
Some minor notes:
- Do NOT spend time alone together
- Try to keep conversations to a mininum; don't go off on 2 hours conversations about old times. Just keep it short (like an update on what's going on and how you're doing) and simple.
- If they've moved on with someone else, respect it! I know it's hard but you wouldn't want em doing it to you; just keep that in mind. And don't get all creepy and go asking them the 411 or for pictures and such. That's just wrong.
- Don't let that person do all the forementioned things to YOU!
2007-02-18 18:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Aubrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to sit this person down and tell them exactly how you feel. Communications is the key in any relationship and you will have to decide this for yourslef. If you just want to be friends, then you have to tell them that you are flattered about how they feel, but you just don't feel the same way about them anymore. Its difficult, but honestly in a relationship is the best way to handle it, it will make you stronger and you will feel better that you at least discussed the matter. Take care Heather
2007-02-12 03:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can, but that's just me. I have a male friend that loves me inside out, but our friendship has become very distant, since I found this out. He wants to be your friend, he wants to move on, or have a break, or whatever. I am assuming you didn't request the friendship.
Wish I could be more help to you.
2007-02-16 18:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry it just won't work. I want to be friends with my ex but he wants more than this. It makes it very hard to be around him and to know that he want more than friendship. I even tell to go out and date but he says no. We are still connect because of children and Grandchildren. I'm sorry you can't move on with your life and find someone who would love you back.
2007-02-19 08:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by barb.douglas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is okey, just dont let it get in the way of any new relationship.. some people think that having your ex call you every other day should be okey with the new person in your life... and hell nooooooo a how you doing? every now and then is just fine,,,
2007-02-12 03:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by BUTTERFLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time. first off, you have to try to get over him. if ur tryin to become friends and ur madly in love your feelings will get involved. Let things cool off for awhile, then when your ready call him up and ask how he or she is doing, invite them to coffee or something start slow
2007-02-12 03:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lil Kaluha5555555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be his friend? You can be an acquaintance of his. If you can only be his lover--you might consider breaking completely. THINK ON THESE THINGS
2007-02-18 10:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by j.wisdom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't right away. Maybe after time goes by,you can appreciate them and just as a friend..
2007-02-18 07:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant to much past and to many feelings the past will always come out your relationship should have never happen
2007-02-19 15:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋