I need help!!! Please help me!!!?

Question

Please listen to this...

MY LIFE IS FALLING APART...

I need you all to help me and give important genuine advice, on how to piece everything back together again...

Me and my Dad fell out, my dad has been ignoring me for the past 3 days now, because I did something terrible to him, I over-reacted to him coming in from the pub drunk, and I called the police on him.

Now it seems like he wont forgive me.

My friend and I went to our local social club, to play some pool and he approached my Dad, to hear him say "You are both not welcome around me" My friend just said, "lets go home" so we did...

That was yesterday, today my friend tells me he might not want to be friends with me anymore and on top of everything he now has a new friend, who he seems to almost idolise in everyway.

I feel so jealous, and so worthless...

I dont know what to do...

I NEED DESPERATE ADVICE, I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP!!!

PLEASE CAN SOMEONE PIECE BACK MY LIFE???

Thanks :)

Answer 1

Poor guy here.

Dunno why in the world you called the cops. I mean you guys are family and you should have had numbers to call before you went that far, but w/e. We all make mistakes.

First, your friend since that's the easier problem. He's just one kid. Get out there and get to know more guys. It's really weird that he's gunna abandon you when you need his help; that isn't the sign of a good friend.

Now about your dad, it'll be a while until he's settled and willing to get along with you again. My dad and I have always had a high-strung relationship so I know from exp. what it's like to be at odds with your dad. Just show him that you're willing to work and not be lazy and that you're an independent guy. Sooner or later, he'll realize you weren't out of place on calling the cops because you're a responsible kid and he'll turn around.

Best of luck man. Sorry to hear about what happened.

Answer 2

Okay, first of all, you say you over-reacted to your Dad coming home drunk.

If you were frightened of him and what he might do, it was a perfectly natural reaction for you to want to protect yourself or others. So, don't be too hard on yourself about this.

When your Dad calms down, which he will eventually, he may be able to understand why you thought it was necessary to call the police on him. Just remember that it is unlikely that he will be angry at you forever.

My suggestion is that you find a family friend, or a relative, who gets on well with your Dad to go and talk to him on your behalf.

As for your friend, the key is that he has said that he 'might' not want to be friends with you anymore. He hasn't said that he doesn't.

As some of the other people have said on here, he isn't exactly acting like a good friend.

You need to remember that there are plenty of people out there who will like you for being you.

Just because one friend decides that they don't want to hang out with you anymore doesn't make you any less of a person, or worthless.

Do you have other friends that you can hang out with? If you haven't, then you are going to need to make some new ones.

Can you join a club - like martial arts, or something else, which you would enjoy? You can meet people who share your interests and that way you can make new friends.

Hang in there. Things will get better for you. Good luck.

Answer 3

You have no reason to feel worthless, or jealous. You did what you thought was right, so stop letting your father make you feel guilty. Even if you over-reacted, your father needs to forgive you. No doubt, he feels embarrassed and is taking his frustration out on you. Give him a bit more time and he'll probably come around.

Your friend doesn't sound like much of a friend, so don't be upset about losing him. He's breaking friendship with you because you and your father are having problems? What kind of friend is that? You're better off without this guy, so get over it.

I know it's hurtful to have your dad not speaking to you, but you must stand your ground. You did what you thought was right, and your father needs to understand that.

Answer 4

It sounds like you Dad has been really hurt and has put up a wall of self defence.
I would not recommend approaching him in a pub or whilst he has drink in him, have you considered writing him a letter and letting him know how much you are hurting too.
He may just be scared of being hurt again, I know that you must be hurting inside too but don't expect everything to be as they were, not straight away at least.
If this does not work you will just have to try and move forward the best you can, in my experience blood is thicker than water and even the most strongest of willed people will forgive and love and be loved as it should be within a family.
Don't be dismayed if your letter does not get a response straight away, if at first you don't succeed, try and try again.
Good luck and I hope it all works out well for you and your Dad!!

Answer 5

A true friend is there for you no matter how bad your situtation. The fact that he dumped you like that shows that he can't be trusted in the future and you're better off with someone else. As for your Dad, give him space so he can have a chance to come down from his anger and hurt. When he's calmed down, sit down with him one on one and explain why you did what you did. If that's not possible, get your mom or a pastor to play the middle man. Just have faith in God and He'll take care of everything. You're worth more than you know. Many blessings, love.

Answer 6

Sounds like your dad has the problem , not you. But that's no help. Can you not find someone to mediate between you two.Your mum maybe or a friend of the family. Tell him why you called the police,were you worried or scared. Be honest with him and ask him to be honest with you, it sounds like he's embarrassed and angry with himself and taking it out on you. It's often easier to blame someone else for your mistakes than accept blame yourself.
As for your friend. sod him. Friends don't just say they don't want to be friends anymore and that they have a new friend, i don't know how old you are but your friend sounds very immature. Mix with other people and get some proper friends, this is not an instant fix and will take time but it will be worth it in the end.

Answer 7

Hiya give ur dad time to calm down he'll talk when he is ready and ull hv to b ready to explain y u calld the poilce in the first place but tell him honestly y as itll help in the long run b truthful and it prevent it happening again ull sort it out with ur dad as for ur friend not sure u can call him a friends if he walkd wen u need him the most hope it all works out

Answer 8

I think a letter to your dad is the best approach,no chance of confrontation and he will know how you feel. Your friend may be back in your life but dont wait for him,get out and meet other friends. Always remember, things are hard at the minute but it wont last forever and you will soon be laughing again. good luck!

Answer 9

First you need to give him time to calm down he's angry at you so right now he wont see reason. Just try to stay out of his way and give him some space to put things into perspective and with time he'll come round. Right now your quite down dont read to much into him having a new friend, he might be trying to make you jealous. As for jealously get rid of it, it's a wasted emotion that gives you nothing and will rob you off everything.

Answer 10

Poor you. If you can't talk to your dad try writing to him and explain why you did what you did. Apologise but don't go overboard. There obviously was a reason why you did what you did. If it was because you care about him tell him that. Explain that you only wanted to help him.

As for the friend. Not much of a friend. Don't dwell on it too much life is for living get out there and make some other friends and forget about him.

Best of Luck xx