about a friend guy of me
everbody think we are dating
personnaly i dont know what im thinking about him, im lost...i dont know what i feel
i know that there is a big friendship but how to know if it's more than that?what can i do?
2007-02-12 02:50:16 · 18 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course peer pressure can be confusing. We value our friends, and we try to believe everything they tell us... that can get hard at times!
Take a few days and ask them not to talk to you about it anymore. Just get them to cool off about it, to give you space to think your own thoughts. Then talk to the guy, and you two decide what's going on, without anyone's advice or help.
2007-02-12 02:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People around you constantly definately play a major role in influencing you in every way... Try not to listen to anyone though. Close peeps tend to think they know what's best for you. But just remember that you know yourself better than anybody else does! You should know what's best for yourself! Everyone's entitled to their own opinion, it's what you do with their opinion that would affect your decisions...
I had a friend whom I was extremely close with. Everyone thought we were dating too... We didn't really care though, because we both knew we were just friends. There were times when we acted like a couple too...
I'm sure you ask yourself is it just a friendship, or are we something more?
If one really thinks about it... Friends often become lovers...
But then again, when they become lovers, it often spoils the friendship and they both tend to realise that it was a big mistake!
My advice to you is try to read into it too much. Don't get in over your head, because the outcome might just be something totally opposite to what you're expecting...
I know I'm going to contridict myself now, but then again... When a guy befriends a girl in a very close manner, then it usually means that he's really into her... And no! I'm not basing my comments on "watching too many movies"! Lol! I'm basing these facts on experience...
So basically... Sort out what you are feeling for him... Otherwise befriending him in the manner that you're doing would just keep him on a string, giving him hope! And if he's a really decent guy, he'd probably wait for you forever. Would you really want him to wait and keep him as a friend and give him false hope knowing that you're not interested in him in that way? That would be unfair as you would be keeping him from actually finding someone who would care for him in the way that you don't...
Talk about it with him... Find out from his side if he's interested in having a relationship in you... (he'd probably say yes...). Then make your decision from there...
Good Luck!
2007-02-12 12:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that he is "just a friend" leave it at that. You will know if you feel more for him than just a friend. You will feel it in your heart.
I would not push the issue to make it more than it is. If he feels that it is, he will let you know.
Don't go by "what my friends say", they don't know what's in his or your heart.
If it is meant to be, then it will be, if it isn't then it won't.
As far as "what can I do?" I would say leave the friendship to be the friendship. If you are undecided about what the relationship is, then leave it the way it is until you figure out what it is that you want it to be.
2007-02-12 11:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by thecjake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you're with someone that makes you happy.. that's all that matters...
Don't listen to the other people around you..
Do what makes YOU happy.. since you're the only one living your life..
and remember, a lot of great relationships come from people that were friends first..
At least you have a background together, and maybe more things in common..
Good luck!
2007-02-12 10:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep that friendship safe and sound. Do not change it into a love. Let others say whatever they want . Both of you know what you r relationship is.
2007-02-15 00:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do some soul searching...you are looking for a heart that does not belong to you. If you do not find any don't worry you guys are just friends so get on with your lives. However, if you do find a heart just check out if it belongs to him, if yes then you are in love. Keep his heart and give him yours instead...now I guess you don't need me to tell you what to do.
2007-02-14 04:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who really cares about ppl around you..You own the guy pretty feelings just show it naturally without being effected by words !! And cummon gather ur thoughts LOL
2007-02-12 10:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the people around you decide your feelings for this guy friend.....it could make the difference between finding love or not. <3
2007-02-14 21:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by ugohay7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say why dont you go on a date with him and see how things go. cause at the end of the day only u know if u have feelings for him
2007-02-12 10:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by glowing flair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're an emotional island. No one affects you in any way. Evidence of this is the fact that you go to random people on the internet to change your opinion.
2007-02-12 10:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by Helpful Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋