i am 19 weeks?

Question

i am 19 weeks preg. my boyfriend got arrested last fri and the nite after went to a female friends house party, then they went to get drunk n a club. i heard this from his mum and asked him about it he said he is not really friends with the girls? and he was also out with male friends. why is he hanging with girls he says he is not great friends with. he could have spent the night with me. am i unreasonable to ask him to stop acting this way. i really have a prob with the fact he e mails her and goes to her houseparty and i am left at home worrying. i have a prob with her being female basically. if they are not so great friends am i unreasonable to say,wait, ur not to see her again or be emailing her.

Answer 1

im 19 weeks and in my relationship we have our ups and downs. But id go F******* crazy if he went off to some girls party and was emailing her. Its not right. Just think you wont be pregnant forever. Once youv had the baby get out and do the same see how he feels then coz i bloody would.

Answer 2

I really think you need to have a long chat with your boyfriend because without trust in the relationship there is no way it will last, one thing i cant stand is liars, remember you can never trust a liar but at least you know where you are with a thief....there is nothing wrong with males having female friends and the other way around but when they wont admit that they are friends, i would most definitely be thinking the worst, one thing to remember is that a woman has 9months to get used to the idea of becoming a parent but with a man it doesn't hit them until the baby is here and believe me it is so hard, you really need to ensure that your relationship is so so strong otherwise you will be in for a very hard time ahead, please have a long chat with him and find out how he is feeling about the whole situation, just ask him if they are just friends what is all the sneaking around about..all the very best off luck to you..xx

Please don't get yourself stressed out about it, remember that is the worse thing to do in pregnancy, if things don't work out.. honestly you will be better of on your own.

I really feel for you...good luck Hun.xxx

Answer 3

I think you are wasting your time with this fella, you are in a very emotional state at the minute you are half way through your pregnancy with hormones all over the place and he isn't helping you at all, you are not being unreasonable asking him to stop acting this way, he has responsibilites now and he should be halping you out in any wau he can, I doubt he is going to change, you are going to have to decide if this is how you want to live the rest of your life cos I doubt he will change after the baby is born, good luck in what you decide to do and I hop everything works out for you :o)

Answer 4

Get rid of this joker. If the man/boy loves you he wouldnt be spending his time with this chick. He should be wanting time to spend with you before the baby is born as when your child is here your time together as a couple will become very rare. Would you be emailing people of the opposite sex if you knew how your partner felt about it? Didnt think so. It will get worse believe you me.One good parent is better then two parents arguing the whole time. Sorry if i sound harsh but you will be okay and when time passes youll realisewhat a pratt he was. You and your child dont need this agro

Answer 5

What's unreasonable about this situation is that you created a child with a guy who has no commitment to you. You knew this going in, but went ahead for whatever reason. Now you're not happy with the situation you're in. I feel sorry for that baby, with an irresponsible mother, and a father who doesn't care enough to marry you, and stop seeing other women. Very sad. You and the guy need to sit down and discuss how you are going to do what's best for the baby.

Answer 6

i think they are good friends and hes lying about not being her friend.It may be because of the fact that Ur pregnant and hes not ready 4 the baby and is still caught up in his old ways no you would not be unreasonable if you told him not 2 see her and 2 stop e-mailing her

Answer 7

I would demand that he stops. First of all it is unfair of him to be out partying when you are at home taking care of yourself and your unborn child. I hope this isn't showing to you how he is going to act once the baby is born. He needs to know that he is a grown up now with a baby on the way so he has a lot of responsibilities that he needs to live up to. He needs to clean up his act!!!

Answer 8

I'm two days ahead of you, and had an ultrasound yesterday morning at three am in the ER lol. He was measuring 20 weeks and 1 day. I asked my dr (they had me come in b/c of the ER) and she said it depends on the person who does the U/S and if the baby is moving a lot (mine was acting up lol). I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 9

He is in the wrong to be acting this way!!!

You are pregnant, he should be with you and supporting you.

He doesnt sound mature enought to handle the responsibility that comes with being a parent!

Confront him!! Good luck!

Answer 10

he has a responsibility to you as he helped get you pregnant, but in the same regards, he could be acting this way because he is scaresd dont push him away by trying to control him, sit him down and talk to him see if he is still happy with you, if you dont work out you dont work out you both can still raise a baby together even if you arent tecnically together, dont let him stress you out it isnt good for baby at all!