2007-02-12 02:45:57 · 21 answers · asked by jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The fact that you are asking this speaks volumes. If you are questioning whether or not you should marry him then I would say no. Getting married is a HUGE commitment, one that should never be entered into lightly. Wait until you know in your heart that you have found the man you want to spend your life with. Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-12 02:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Leah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "All He Ever Wanted" by Anita Shreve if you can get your hands on it. It's a story about just that...about a man who wanted this woman so badly, he accepted the fact that she didn't love him and married her anyway...thinking that the love would come. If you're a reader, this book should really get to you.
Good luck on your choice. Just remember that we all feel strong love at some point in our lives. If you marry the wrong man, the right one could come along later and there you would be. Married and stuck.
2007-02-12 03:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe love will come -- so, get married after it does. Contrary to popular belief, a wedding does not cause magical transformations in people. It's just a ceremony. It will not cause love to appear, and it won't change anybody. So, when you love this man, and you know that he is the only person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, then marry him, and not a moment sooner.
2007-02-12 02:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, love is part of marriage but not the total package. This is why so many marriages fail today, they fall out of love and have affairs or just walk out. You have to be committed to the person, love, honor, cherish. It takes love from both parties involved to make a marriage work. I have known people that have married for companionship or financial reasons and have fallen in love (or grown to love) their spouse over the years but this was years ago when the sanctity of marriage was taken seriously.
2007-02-12 02:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't do it! I was in a similar situation 4 years ago...I had dated a guy for nearly 2 years and he felt very strongly about me. I struggled to develop my feelings for him and eventually, felt I was living a lie. I broke things off with him and it turned out to be the best decision. Less then a year later I met my now husband and we got engaged right away. If you don't love him now, you won't love him ever. Don't go through life like that.
2007-02-12 02:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know you could get a puppy to worship you and you wouldnt have to change your last name! But you'd still get to clean em, feed em and pick up after em!
If you havent fallen madly in love with this guy by now, I dont think youre going to want to spend the rest of your life with him. He sounds good for the ego but not good for marriage. No dont marry him. He's not the one.
Its just like you hear it is. When you finally meet "the one" you'll know it. You wont have to ask what we think, you'll already know.
Good luck
2007-02-12 03:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Historically, women did marry men they didn't love. Instead, they developed a deep respect for these men who provided for them out of love. In actuality, men have more of a capacity for loving women than is the reverse. If women had more 'respect' for their husbands, marriages would last longer.
2007-02-12 02:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way in hell. If you do that you will be miserable for the rest of your life. Be gone from him with a quickness, your only prolonging the pain that will come when you do finally have enough and end the relationship.
2007-02-12 05:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Flangina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling of love will come and go - it's all about commitment - love is a decision not a feeling.
2007-02-12 03:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You can't make yourself love someone, and he can't make you either no matter how hard either of you try. If you marry him, you may end up feeling resentful toward him for telling you that you WILL love him one day. I say follow your own heart and find someone that you care about as much as they love you.
2007-02-12 02:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by eeyoung03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋