My husband and i suspect that his 3 year old sons mother is taking drugs. When she collects him shes often late and appears to be off her t*ts! and someone else driving her car. Shes always been rude and arrogant and she even at one time couldnt be arsed to look after him so she gave him to us and she saw him when ever it suited her. He lived with us for 15 months while she "sorted" herself out. On her and childs health visitor advice we had to hand him back which was really hard to do but it wasnt about us it was about him and we really thought shed got her act together. We gave him back on the conditions that she were to be the one that looked after him and not passing boyfriends and friends as this is what shes done in the past and since have heard that her friend is looking after him most nights as mummy has work. She also used to a prostitute and we now belive shes up to old tricks again. What should we do. We dont know where shes moved to and she wont tell us.
2007-02-12 02:44:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Child not always willing to go with mum,and she wants to emmigrate with him to austrailia where she originally comes from.
2007-02-12 02:45:42 · update #1
my honest oppinion is you take her to court. put it in the hands of authorities and try to get custody of him. if your son lives with his mom the rest of his life when this is goin on it will screw his head up. i lived with an alcholic mother till i was 18, when i was 12 and old enough in my eyes to do my own thing i went off the rails. not that im a bad person but for me that was my escape path and its not till im older that i realised it. i suffer with depression now. i know what it is like to live with a parent like that and i guarentee you darlin that it will ruin your sons life if he doesnt get out of it. you care for him and love him so whats stoppin you fighting to get him and give him the life that he or any child deserves else it will only be him that suffers in the future. i wish you all the luck i possibly can. xxxx
2007-02-19 01:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by lipz20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter that you do not remember what you did because they remember. Apologizing is too little. You need to take responsibility for what you did. Have your brother intercede on your behalf. If he is not a total wuss he will be able to tell the family that you have changed. Send your mom a bouquet of flowers on her birthday or whatever occasion with a note that says "I know I have wronged you and I am sorry. Please tell me how I can make it up to you" and then do it. Having a letter from your doctors saying that these drugs had drastic side effects on you would also help to smooth things over. Finally, have a dinner party and invite family members that are willing to go to your house. Have two or three so your mom can hear positive feedback from these family members.. Then have one when you invite her. Do not push if she declines the invitation. Do not force things. Ultimately, you do not control them. All you can do is change yourself.
2016-05-24 00:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The CAB has a good information leaflet about reporting Child Abuse - you can either get in touch with Social Services, report it to the police or contact Childline and ask them to forward an anonymous complaint.
If you feel that something is going on, you need to take action, even if you fears may be unfounded - it isn't worth the risk.
You can also get in touch with the courts to ask for access to be reassessed and ask for supervised visitation only.
Hope this helps xx
2007-02-13 07:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what state you are in so I will tell you what I can. You should contact the Child Protection Agency in your State. Tell them what you suspect (no names if possible, and ask what they suggest. It is very possible that a drug test could be administered or, if refused, custody could be awarded to you.
Again, a lot depends on the state you live in.
2007-02-18 23:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by terterryterter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact you local department of children services and hurry before it is too late a child is a terrible thing to waste. This child needs help before mommy has an overdose or a bad boyfriend or just forgets about her child one night You can contact the department of children services and not tell them who you are just that this child needs help That is why DCS is there to help those who can't help themselves
2007-02-19 07:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lawyer CAN easily locate her. My advice is for your husband to see one and get full custody of the child for his own well being.
2007-02-19 19:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact social services and tell them of your concerns. You could always apply for full custody.
2007-02-18 01:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would definatley get some legal advise it does not sound like she is being a good mother
2007-02-18 07:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by sha23z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋