Okay so you need to know the background before you can answer this. SO four and a half years ago is when we met.It's kind of been a rocky relationship off and on well two years into the relationship we took a break and on the break I slept with a man that used to be my boyfriend best friend(one time). They were no longer friend and I know that doesn't really make it any better.I never told my man and he had no idea that this happened Anyway My man and I got back together and i got PREGNANT. We had been working on things off and on since we got back together and things were going good until the other man saw him on the street and told him that he slept with me. I didn't want to lie so I admitted it.(This was back in October)Well we have been working on things but i just found out last week that he, for the last month, had been with some other girl. He slept with her atleast twice and got oral another time. We broke up because of this,we were both set on it being doen forever.
2007-02-12 02:36:03 · 7 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Now he wants to make this work out. And make our family a family again. Should I go back or take some time. If you have any other suggestions please help!!!
2007-02-12 02:36:56 · update #1
Someone mentioned that my son needs a father. Please know that even if my Son's father and I do not work this out he will always be there for his son. He is not a dead beat! I just want to provide as many TRUE details as possible because I love this man and don't know what to do.
2007-02-12 02:54:55 · update #2
Girl i would say take some time to urseklf and think if this is what u really wnt in a relationship. Take some alonr time see how that feels, if u cant live withou him try and work things out, if ur happier alone and no drama then do that. But it does sound like you both have an immatyure relationship. I prob shouldnt be speaking cuz my man and I have our problems, but sometimes its best to spend time apart to find out how much u both really need and want one another! good luck.. ANd also you dont need a man tyo raise your son, women do it all the time. if he wont be a dea beat thats great but it doesnt mean you have to be with him. when your son is born it could bring you closer or further apart, but be strong! if u dont get back together know that the right guy will come along eventually and he'll love you and your son. You dont need a man to be a good mom
2007-02-12 03:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Kaluha5555555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is once a cheater always a cheater. I don't think you would of broke up so many times if you were meant to be together. If he is cheating on your relaitionship know, he will always cheat. How can you trust him again. I know you need a dad for the baby but at the same time, do you want to be in a relationship were you are not going to be happy. You have to weigh the pro's and con's of this relationship and ask yourslef if this is what you really want and will you be happy. If not then you will have to make this decision however life is too short to be happy. Take care Heather
2007-02-12 10:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should go back with him,
from at least what i can understand when you guys took a break. You slept with your ex and he slept with a girl. Now whats the difference there. Are you saying that its only fair if you get to sleep with someone and he couldn't? And also you can't raise a child by yourself it takes two of you and its best in the child that his father is there. I grew up without my father in my life and it was hard for my mom.
2007-02-12 10:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by shortyjay123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have everyone involved get together for a big orgy, then call it even.
Seriously though, since a child is involved see if you can work it out somehow, the child needs both parents.
It may not take a village, but 2 parents is a good thing.
2007-02-12 10:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Indiana Jones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be mad at him because you did the same thing. You cheated on him, and he cheated on you . Doesnt sound like a healthy relationship to me! If you are willing to work on it together for the sake of your baby, then you both need to be commited 100% and get married. No messing around .
2007-02-12 10:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow huney seems like u have hand a rocky couple of years! look if you havent gotten over him by now, then the feelings u have for him are real and true and are meant to be taken somewhere give it time and u feel ur absolutely confident then get back with him, if theres anylil question then wait and think more! best wishes! follow your heart!
2007-02-12 10:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by rckstar88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make some serious changes before this can work. I suggest you both get some counseling before you make any plans.
2007-02-12 10:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋