EVERYONE LOVES HIM....my parents, my friends, my relatives....He is wonderful, caring, trustworthy, hot, great job, gorgeous house, genuine, would be a great father.....I have always been in drama filled relationships and FINALLY decided to get out of it after 7 years and this has been my 1st non drama relationship
I took a 6 month break and then met him. We clicked. We both wanted to get married to each other someday, have kids together, and live in our "now" house FOREVER.
One day my feelings clicked off. Honestly, I woke up one morning after we were dating for 3 months and had come to the conlusion that I didnt love him anymore. Since then I went on some anti-anxiety meds and my feelings have been up and down. When we are out of town I dont think about anything and have a good time with him, BUT when we are at home I get all anxious and feel like I dont love him anymore...I dont know why but the smallest things he does annoy me and the next day everything could be fine. I just dont feel as romantic as I used to with him. I still enjoy having sex with him and spending time with him but feel as though something is missing or I dont love him anymore? I dont trust myself with this relationship. Please help, I hate hearing that I am not in love with him anymore...For some reason people re-assuring my love for him makes me feel better?!?!?
2007-02-12 02:27:25 · 3 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like you do love him, but the situation at home is setting off some emotional issue when you're home. And I think you may have answered your own question in the first paragraph. This is your first non-drama relationship. You're not used to living without the drama, so your psyche is creating some.
Like people that have to always have a tough challenge going or a goal that takes up all their energy, you feel bored and depressed when there isn't some drama happenning in the relationship. You don't know how to live without the anxiety, worry and challenge of trying to keep you and your partner together through a daily life full of struggles. I wouldn't be surprised if the anti-anxiety meds made things worse!
So it comes down to a decision. Do you want to go out looking for another troubled relationship to keep your emotional energy burning on a high flame, or do you want to try to change your own emotional process so that you no longer need the anxiety of a drama-filled relationship. I guess there's one more option. You could stay with this man that everyone, including you, thinks is a wonderful guy, but continue to pick fights with him to satisfy your need for that kind of stress.
I would vote against the latter option if I had any sway. If you choose changing yourself then it's probably going to take some counseling and a lot of hard work on your part. But then maybe that's what you need -- a different challenge to focus on.
Best of luck.
2007-02-12 03:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Chris C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That rush of infatuation love does taper off with time. Maybe its just that those intense feelings have dropped away. If so, that doesn't mean you don't love him anymore. Do you still enjoy spending time with him, the regular everyday things. Give yourself some more time before you leave a relationship that actually seems like a good one for you!!!!
2007-02-12 10:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's too easy for you, Maybe the drama in your past relationships was coming from you, You may be addicted to,drama.
2007-02-12 10:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋