Why can't my husband see that talking to these other women and not respecting my feelings about certain things is going to cause him to lose me? I have told him that I don't want him talking to this woman and now he forwards all her funny joke emails to me as if he is throwing it in my face that he is talking to her still. Why is he still talking to her? I can't continue to tell him it upsets me because he just gets mad .. does he just not care about me enough to tell this other woman that they can't talk? Does he not realize he will lose me if he doesn't care about my feelings? Or he just doesn't care at all?
2007-02-12 02:24:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I must add...this is the same woman he lied to me about before when they were hanging out together. Now that we have moved to another state, he all of the sudden is in contact with her again and I am uncomfortable with it. He doesn't talk to her around me - only from his work email. So, I told him that I didn't like it and that they shouldn't be talking. That there is a thin line between friendly and flirty and I think they have already crossed it because he lied to me before about hanging out with her.
2007-02-12 02:34:03 · update #1
you don't deserve that... i know my husband cares enough about me that if hes doing something that hurts me he will stop and same for me... you are married and it sounds like he cares more about his "friendship" with her than his life with you. get out girl...you don't deserve that.
2007-02-12 02:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ms Heather, I know that your problem is a bit annoying and right now things are filling up. Ask yourself, does your husband trying to make you mad so he can find a way to really be with her or is he trying to do this so you'll be jealous with what his doing. Ask him if the two of them already met in person,does this woman pushing your husband to do this things so his attention will be on her.
Now my second question is are the two of you communicating, do you give him enough attention when you two are together. This are some that you must think, most men esp. married,they do feel insecure and they do feel that one day it might not be them who will be on their wifes or girlfriends side. It doesnt matter how old a man is,but reality they do have this insecurity problem when it comes to who's number one in the eyes of their wife, or girlfriend.
The next time he did this again, sit him and tell him that you dont like arguing, and at the same time tell him that if he had something to tell you,just say it instead of making this stupid jokes. Life is to short and if his trying to push you away, all he needs is tell you face to face. last but not the least...next time he keeps talking to this woman, do your best to ignore him, keep on doing this and one day he will stop. Show that you dont careless,it will not be you who's going to loose,it will be him...I wish you luck,.keep your head up, you don't deserve this at all...
2007-02-12 10:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man has no respect for you, my dear. I think you should really evaluate you situation. Is this man worth this constant disrespect? Because somewhere out there is a man who will respect you and not treat you this way.
You guys should have a serious talk. If he continues, he's too immature and not that interested in the first place. Get back on the horse and try again with someone new.
2007-02-12 10:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by shortbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, men generally do not realize what they have until they completely lose it. If he continues to talk to this "other woman" ,then you need to put your foot down and give him an ultimatum. If this doesn't work, suggest you take some time apart to see if this was meant to be. This may be a hard approach but it will determine what really matters to him.
2007-02-12 10:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by jenben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have control of your husband issues. Could it be that he is just sharing humor with you and not "Throwing" his friend in your face? If he was trying to hide a relationship, would he forward his e-mails to you? Is it possible that you are being too possessive? Maybe you have self esteem issues? Look to yourself, before you criticize.
2007-02-12 10:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its simple, Men are really, really stupid, in a weird smart kind of way. Men are smart enough to know what will hurt a girl the most, but too stupid to keep that information to themselves. I guess the only question in my mind is, if this guy really doesn't respect you, is it something you want to be a part of anyways?
2007-02-12 10:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by army_leads_the_way 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, why do u get so jealous about him talking to another woman? did he cheated on you before? with this actual woman or another one? it doesn't mean that your married, you can control him on who he wants to talk to or not. obviously you are making him angry by telling him what to do so probably talking to that woman means nothing to him but just to piss u off since you sound controlling.why are you so jealous about these women u have to ask yourself that.. you think that he will leave you for these women? he married you so obviously he chose you means he loves you otherwise he will just ask you for divorce if he wants somebody else.Men are not like women usually if they don't feel happy or love you anymore they just ask leave or ask a divorce or something to get rid of you. you have to talk to him and give him a good reason on why don't you want him talking to other women...
2007-02-12 10:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by irel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does not care. Or he cares about maintaining the contact with the other woman more than he cares about you.
If it's just joke emails, you might be overreacting. That's what it sounds like. If you are overreacting, you might be the one losing him.
2007-02-12 10:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control him, period.
You are not sending the message that he is losing you. You are sending the message that you don't like him talking to that woman.
If you want him to get the message that he is losing you, you have to say, "I will not remain in this relationship if you continue to ignore my feelings on this matter."
From what I've read, you have not clearly said that he is losing you.
I don't like his behavior, but I don't like the way you are delivering your message either. You are not communicating clearly.
You can't control him, but you can set boundaries and determine your actions.
2007-02-12 10:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whats right for you, he obviously is being inconsiderate and although to some it might be trivial I understand.. and that is NOT okay. You should tell him that doing anything with a woman that he would not do in front of you is cheating... flirting IS cheating. and that's not fair.
2007-02-12 10:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by Student12345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋