Me and my guy has been seeing each other on and off for about 3 yrs .But since we got back together about 5 mo ago we’ve been in this monogamist relationship but still having problems because there are some insecurity on mine part as well as his part more so minds. and I feel that our differents are so great, that we shouldn’t be together and when I express that to him he get violent and wants to fight me and insist on staying around but it’s only bringing me pain. Because I don’t trust him, so how do I get him to leave me alone with out hurting me physically?
2007-02-12 02:21:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
You get out and be prepared to fight, using any means available to escape
2007-02-12 02:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough place, for sure. I do know that Sagittarians need a lot of space to live and if you are insecure, he will want to run! Of course if he loves you, he won't run, he'll just make your life miserable. Leaving a relationship is difficult and often you'll end up going back & forth, which is quite draining. Communication is essential in long-term relationships and if you cannot talk about this together, then you may have to make a quick get-away. Can you take a vacation? Got any friends or family that live far away that you can visit to get away and sort through your feelings? Not sure how physical he has been, but there are some great shelters that can help you get & stay away from him if you feel he truly is a danger to you. Good luck!
2007-02-12 02:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aries tend to hang on to things for a long time because they are always wondering "what if". Even though you know the answer, you have a hard time making a decision and sticking to it. You know you have to get out because you also have a tendency to flair up out of anger. It is NOT wise to stay in any abusive relationship. Tell a friend or relative what's going on, do not keep it a secret. If it is exposed you will feel more en powered and your abuser will have less control of you. Read Susan Miller's February horoscope for Aries at Susanmiller.com. It speaks to your situation. Hope this helps.
2007-02-12 03:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by scorpion queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK for starters, get your head out of the horoscope section of the newspaper. You're dealing with a REAL threat to your well being, not some new-age metaphysical mystic idea!!!!
The best thing to do is to have some friends over, three or four, some of them males. When he gets there confront him in front of witnesses and tell him it's over and that he should leave.
Have one of your friends keep a cell phone in hand ready to dial the police in case of violence.
DO NOT let him get you alone for ANY reason when you do this. Have his things packed and at the door as well so that he can take them without going through the house.
Make it VERY clear that you do not want him to return. Go to the sherriff and swear out a restraining order if you feel it's necessary.
Wether or not he gives you the keys is not important. He could have copies hidden anywhere so, CHANGE THE LOCKS!!!
I cannot stress how important it is for you to be aware of your situation and realize that you're in danger here.
Best of luck honey.
2007-02-12 02:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a restraining order.
But first things first...do you live together? If he comes to your place...lock the doors. If you go to his place...don't warn him..just stop going there. Talk to a lawyer or police officer for advice on how to handle this and remain safe.
I know it's hard..because there will still be things you love about him. But you have to keep in mind that is keeping him from being embarrassed or hurt his feelings...might cost you your life. Never underestimate anyone. We are all capable of terrible things. Do whatever it take to stay safe.
2007-02-12 02:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by aslongasitrocks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve to be in an abusive relationship, and from what you say it sounds as if there's not enough there to resolve anyway.
Contact Refuge for guidance and support.
2007-02-12 02:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by hevs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am an aries also but i am almost areis since my b-day is april 17th. (my bf was born jan 9th. what does that make him?)
well, if you tried just walking away from the situation, and he still comes back, then you may have to get alittle violent!
tell him that you are tired of him hurting your heart and if he bothers you again that you'd put a restraining order on him.
2007-02-12 02:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reaching out to express your pain,.............hmmmm your answers are right there you need to just tell him it's over we are both miserable and leave it at that do not argue back and end up agreeing to stay together. You like your power your choice. It seems he has the control and you need to prove your strength and ground. The longer you wait the longer your unhappiness will stay around~
2007-02-12 02:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by vcaring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the one who had to leave (move out) from my last relationship. if you think he will hurt you, don't tell him your leaving and just disappear one day. there is a lot of help for battered women out there.
http://www.ncadv.org
2007-02-12 02:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell are you with anyone who is abusive and gets violent? Break it off and if inform the police of his tendancies and have it on file to protect you.
2007-02-12 02:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by STEPHEN S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋