Well- I decided that before I said anything to him, I needed to be fairly certain he did it (not that I just misplaced it or anything). So I already accused him so I can't be wishy washy now, If I'm ever going to get him to confess or give it back....right? He has never done it before, he is a good kid, but he is the only one that could have done it. It was 50 some dollars, but I'm thinking in my strategy- that I should say it was like $300 bucks, just to get him to panic- or is that cruel? I'm so angry, because I know he'll never confess (would you?) because he knows the consequences will be fierce- but I have to make sure this never happens again....so I have to punish him no matter what, right? Obviously he'll say "what? I didn't take it" and without proof, I do what then? I'm thinking to go with not swaying at all, that I am sure he did it- if he didn't, and I ground him and take away his cell, he'll break down and cry or something right? Then maybe I'll know?
2007-02-12 02:16:28 · 11 answers · asked by The Grand Inquisitor 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
When I gave him money Sat. night before he left, he watched me grab money out of my coat pocket, a couple of twenties etc. and I gave him six singles and put the money back. Noone else knew it was there...Since I've already assumed it was him, I'm going with that, and all I can hope is that when I punish him- he will break down and really, really look desperate like he didn't do it? Otherwise, if he doesn't cry or freak out or something, I'll know he DID do it, and then I guess I have a thief for a kid. Great.
2007-02-12 02:46:41 · update #1
You say he has been a good kid so I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and accept what he tells you as the truth. Not believing him (even if you think he did take it) will hurt the trust you've built up in your relationship. Don't punish him - he's not been proven guilty. When you can do so without anger, have one more talk with him and ask him if he's in any difficulty . . . does he have a problem he needs to talk about. Reassure him that you love him and will help him anytime, anywhere. It could be that he's gotten involved with drugs or someone is bullying him or maybe there's a girl he wants to impress (or boy). It would not be good to add a lie to the equation (saying it was $300 not $50) - honesty goes both ways in parenting. Accept the fact that perhaps you lost the money or if he did take it, that it was a hard lesson for you both. In future, put your spare cash in a safer place - somewhere that he does not have access . . . in other words, make sure he can't be tempted again. This is a tough one but tougher trials are ahead and you don't want to get stuck on this one. Forgive him, love him, trust him, help him act responsibly by being a good role model. You might also have a word with his teachers to make sure he's on target with assignments - not having difficulty at school. Don't rely on them to tell you if something's a little off.
Good luck ...
2007-02-12 03:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Santal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a talk with him, if you too are the only one that's there in the house then tell it' just you and me who else could have done it . if the money pops up then I apologies let him know that if he did it that it don't make him a bad person , but that he made a bad derision.
2007-02-12 03:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing first you should not hit him and mostly you should not scream or anything like that if he took it just calm down and think don't act dumb and do something bad just talk to him ask why he took it also you should ask what was he going to buy but don't hit him just let it go and tell him him if he needs anything to ask you instead and maybe you will get it for him goooooooood luck
2007-02-12 03:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by suertegringo90 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe dont punish him, tell him if he tells you the truth he wont get in trouble and stick to it, if you want him to trust you dont lie. are you positive it was him? maybe a friend of his did it and he doesnt even know. just talk to him about stealing and why its wrong.
2007-02-12 02:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punish him now before he thinks you're a push over of a mother and before you know it he'll be servin time holdin up the local 7-11.
2007-02-12 02:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by dc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if this was my son i would come down hard on him and then if there's every a next time he will think 2 good luck x
2007-02-12 02:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops...
Theres this new show on tv, called "Juvie"
Maybe they will send him there to scare him.. good luck
2007-02-12 02:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't take away his cell, put him in a cell.
2007-02-12 02:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call the cops. That will scare it out of him.
2007-02-12 02:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
an assumption makes an *** out of you and me
sit him down and say "im sorry i accused you.....but please tell me if you really did it, i wont punish you for it." (this time)
2007-02-12 03:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋