Some friends say that marriage is a trap others believe is a right things to do. Confused should i marry or remain single?
2007-02-12 02:04:04 · 47 answers · asked by Nuel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are capable of thinking about marriage in such simplistic terms, then you are not emotionally ready to be married. Marriage is too complex a relationship to boil down so tritely.
2007-02-12 02:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Those who are obviously unhappy, will say that marriage is a trap. I disagree with that, because if you enter into a marriage with both eyes wide open, how could it be a trap? Marriage is the right thing to do when two people really love each other & want to spend the rest of their lives together. If you're confused right now, then marriage is not for you because it's a lifelong commitment that you enter into when the right lady comes along. Don't listen to what others say when they knock marriage. Make up your own mind.
2007-02-12 02:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should do what you want to do not what your friends tell you. Have a mind of your own. Marriage is not a trap and remaining single is not a bad thing either. It just depends on the persons preferences. Who really has the authority to say that it is the right or wrong thing to do?
2007-02-12 02:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by NLH823 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you know what makes you happy. I am married and I love my husband. I don't feel trapped. I feel like I married the right person. This is my second marriage and in my first marriage I felt trapped and I was losing myself. He wasn't the right person for me. It took me awhile to remarried because I wanted to be sure that I was doing the right thing. If there are red flags before marring a person there will be hardship during the marriage. I had so many red flags with my 1st husband and I ignored them all. That relationship was indeed a trap. With my current husband, I would have been a fool not to marry him. So it all depends on if it's the right person for you and if you're ready for marriage.
2007-02-12 02:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tt can be a trap if your finances, job, home are tied in such a way, you can't get free, even when you want to.
It can be a trap if you have assests & your partner is, overnight, entitled to 50%.
It can be a trap, if you don't have enough freedom to make choices & decisions that are right for your life.
Sorry, but these days, I just can't see the point in spending a lot of money so she can dress up in white & eat a heavily iced cake.
If you love each other, why not just live together?
That way, you don't run the risk of getting involved in all that possessive "you are mine" crap.
By knowing your partner has the freedom to walk at any time, that keeps your relationship healthy!
You can still promise to be faithful to each other...
2007-02-12 02:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married and divorced and can honestly say it is what you make it. I don't look at it as a trap even when it doesn't work. Marriage is a wonderful thing when shared by two people in love with the same wants out of life.
2007-02-12 02:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only marry if you can find the right person. Otherwise it really is a dreadful way to live. I have been married and I've been single, and until I met my partner, I was ALWAYS happiest when I was single. Marriage sent my blood pressure sky high but that was because of my husband who was one of those who's never happy, constantly carped and complained and was totally unreasonable. My friends were so happy when I dumped him! Now he's making some other poor woman miserable. I feel sorry for her.
Stay single unless you can be with someone that you really get along with "swimmingly", as they used to say.
2007-02-12 03:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a union between two people who are in love and best friends...
a trap? NO, a decision you make on how you feel about someone who feels the same way about you
sounds like some of your friends have married the wrong person to say it is a trap
be cool...
2007-02-12 02:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those who think marriage is a trap have a very negative view of the world. I guess it's a trap in that you can't just "walk away" like you could if you were just dating. But I have a fantastic marriage and I wouldn't want to walk away anyway. You just have to find the right person and take the plunge!
2007-02-12 02:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it is a trap as one person usually stands to gain something more then the other. And the amount of time and money people spend trying to get out of bad marriages is awful when you could just live together and then walk away form each other without a legal battle.
The only reason to marry for me is for financial benefits such as tax reasons.
But it is personal choice I do want to beleive in the ideal of marriage and the fantasy and romanticness but as it rarely pans out that way I have a very jaded view of it.
2007-02-12 02:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the person you are with makes you happy and you want to spend the rest of your life with them then marriage is for you. It's not something someone else can tell you about because every relationship is different. Married or single is really up to you but remember.. If you love something, then you will let it go. If it comes back then it's yours.
2007-02-12 02:09:32 · answer #11 · answered by lilbitt_637 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋