I'm 28 years old and just experienced my 1st (hopefully only) miscarriage at 6 weeks preg. It took us over 14 months to get pregnant and my midwife suggests that we wait 3 months before we start trying to get pregnant again. I'm so scarred that it will take a long time to get pregnant again and don't want to wait 3 months before we can even start trying. To top it all off, my sister is pregnant right now and we were due to have our babies only a few weeks apart. It's painful to think about her and having a constant reminder of where I would have been if I had a healthy pregnancy. Any pros or cons out there on if we can start ttc earlier?
2007-02-12 01:54:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Follow your midwife's advice. There are reasons for waiting to get pregnant again. How do you know that if you don't wait if it will take any less time to get pregnant again.
I am very sorry for you loss. That isn't anything that I would wish upon anyone. Just for some encouragement -- my sister in law got pregnant 10 weeks after her miscarriage.
2007-02-12 01:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my sympathy. I miscarried twice; both times my dr. said to wait for one menses cycle before trying again. I did get pregnant right after one miscarriage, did not even cycle, it was a quite a surprise and we were absolutely delighted. It did make the grief of the miscarriage so much easier to bear in that I was pregnant during the some of the same time frame. One thing to consider is the state of your health tho, did you bleed a lot when you miscarried? If so, you will want to wait until your hemoglobin builds back up. Other than that, if you are healthy, there really isn't any reason to wait 3 months.
Re your sister, that's going to be a painful situation, I hope you can separate your grief and her joy and be happy for the little niece or nephew that's joining your extended family.
Your grief will ease as time goes on, right now you are experiencing both the profound sadness of the loss of a baby and the raging hormones of post pregnancy.
Blessings, and I hope you are cooing into a little fuzzy blanket within a year.
2007-02-12 02:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. But you should wait the 3 months you don't want to risk having anyother problems. I had a miscarriage and started to try right away and got pregnant with in a month but I had a tubic pregnancy and they had to remove one of my tubes. So now I only have 1 tube and I still had know problems getting pregnant. I suggest waiting the 3 months you don't want to have another miscarriage or any other more seriouse problems.
2007-02-12 02:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just finished having a miscarriage myself. I was supposed to be 11 weeks pregnant but the baby quit growing at 6 weeks. My doctor told me to wait around 3 months but if it happened sooner than that it was ok. He also put me on vitamins to get my body back up to healthy so take your vitamins and do what feels right to you. If you think you are emotionally and physically able to try again then start. I wish you the best of luck. We are also going to start trying again soon.
2007-02-12 02:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by sweetm12004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was also told to wait three months and planned on it, wanted to give my body time to heal. but we were not so smart one night (about two days after i stopped bleeding) and i ended up pregnant again. so i had a miscarriage january 30th 2005 and was pregnant again Feb 11th 2005. i had a baby boy in August he was 10 weeks early due to an incompitant cervix, but is healhty as can be now. its up to you when you want to try again, i am not saying you should start right away, unless that is what you want i just wanted you to know that just because you have had one miscarriage does not mean you will have another one or put you at a higher risk for one. i wanted to give you some hope,
i wish you all the best. good luck to you,
2007-02-12 02:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss, hon. I miscarried last week. I know it is a really hard time. It sounds like your midwife is trying to give you extra time to heal emotionally and physically. However, a lot of places I have read say to wait until after one menstrual period. I think if you feel ready it would be okay to go ahead and try after you have your first period. Make an extra effort to build your body back up with lots of iron-rich food (nuts, dark green leafy vegetables, liver) and general good nutrition. Good luck!
2007-02-12 02:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by Faith M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could do it again in 1 month. Your midwife is saying 3 because she is being cautious and giving your body time to heal and you to grieve, but at 28, you can get right back to it.
It shouldn't take you 14 months to get pregnant. There is something wrong there.
2007-02-12 01:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by non_apologetic_american 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should actually listen to the midwife. my mum advised me to actually wait 6 months to a year. while you're waiting you should boost up yr immunity and body by eating lots of well balanced and nutritious food. if you're chinese i'm sure your folks will feed you will allthe double boiled stuffs such as ginseng chicken and so on.
no harm waiting. better have a safe and enjoyable pregnancy than suffer if you are unwell and weak
2007-02-12 02:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by Apricot Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋