they live around me in other flats. and they congregate together in big numbers and i feel intimidated by them..and im angry because i feel they no this. ive socially withdrawn because of great anxiety and a fear ill lose control of my rage. or i'll experience the detached feelings and paranoia that i have right before i lose control of my rage...i feel my fears of these youths are based in reality because in the past, ive been attacked and harrassed by similar youths. ive felt victimised and manipulated by them.. plus when ive lost control in the past and acted out, ive stared and acted with uncontrolable aggression in public, thats caused youths like them to attack me..so i have vivid memories of harrassment and attacks. and i feel enraged by this because i feel surpressed by them, i deeply resent the hold they have on my life..im 29 and i feel doubly frightened to go out when there there. and i avoid trying to go out when there there. i feel enraged that i have to live in fear
2007-02-12 01:38:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i wish i could fight back against them and not feel frightened of them...even though the youths where iam are not directly attacking me, i feel intimidated by there presence when there all there. if i have to go out, i can feel there eyes on me and feel scared they might shout something, like whats happened in the past, and i never no how to react to it, except to feel frightened. then completly lose control of my anger. this is why i feel i didnt have to live here, around them, and i could find a better life and emmegrate to be with this girl i talk to on the net in canada...how do i deal with this? im juggling with so many things at onece. trying to get the right diagnosis and treatment for my mental health problem. trying to develop a relashionship with a girl i love..worrying how ill reach my ambitions and dreams in life? emmegration..a good job..how am i to deal with this?
2007-02-12 01:46:08 · update #1
Hi Derek,
You are hopefully getting councelling. If you are not then get some right now. And by a real doctor with a diploma and all the right stuff.
You have major hangups going on. The teens that have gathered should not concern you unless you have done something to them. You mention that in the past you have done horrible things. Why are they teasing you? What have you done? The girl in Hamilton, in other times you mention that she hasn't been on msn for a while. How long is a while. Is it possible that she has noticed your paranoid of everything and has decided to end your relationship, maybe you have scared her off. I warned you posting her photo would not help your situation.
You need to get your self together before you can further any relationship. Get your help and get over your anxiety. You are on a disablility pension, so someone is working with you that knows about your issues. Like why you don't work so they should be able to help you further by getting you to a doctor that can help.
You seem like a nice person, but I am sure you have scared the girl in Hamilton, (city .. I love). You have been obsesive with her and that could do it. You even mention how you become enraged by people so if you told her any of this she will probably never want contact with you you have admitted that you become UNCONTROLLABLEY AGGRESSIVE IN PUBLIC. What do you think people are going to think of you.
You need to get off the computer and get to a hospital and seek treatment immediatly if you want to get better and possible make any type of a relationship with Miss Hamilton.
2007-02-13 16:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel very sorry for the situation you say is happening and it is very serious that the life you are living is not a good one on health or even your life style. Don't get in the pain body, and what i mean is on the past. You feel from the past that the same is going to happen and it will only do this if you let it and by the past the past will become reaility STOP IT NOW. You are experinceing your past trauma's and this happens the older we get like all Abuse and this is what you suffered before. Can i suggest something that you go and speak with a councerler about this please and i can gurantee you will fight this and be a better person for it but you must close the book on the past before moving on. Im sorry that you are in this situation, and please do as i have said.
2007-02-12 21:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by SAMANTHA H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can’t blame those youths for living there, nor can you blame them for getting together. In the end, the only one responsible for your fear is you. How to get rid of this fear? That’s simple in theory, but hard in practice: Stop caring.
Stop caring how they are there. Stop caring how they look at you. Stop caring what they say.
Don’t just tell yourself to stop caring, but actually STOP caring. Honestly, they have the right to be where they are. If they harass you, call the police if it gets bad. But don’t exaggerate the problem. Once you realise it isn’t really there, the problem vanishes.
If you succeed at this, not only will you cease to be afraid, but your anger will also become less of an issue. Avoid actual confrontation at all cost however. The police is there for a reason, and it’s better to be safe than sorry.
2007-02-12 02:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by Whateverski 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
calm down for a start.I really feel for you and your situation with the youths, something a lot of people have to deal with nowadays, and i agree they can be very intimidating.Is there any way that you could move from your current home to somewhere a bit more peaceful?Its not what life throws at us, but the way we deal with it.Try to hold your head up high and not let them intimidate you.good luck
2007-02-13 22:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ramona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word Paranoia springs to mind.
2007-02-12 01:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever thought about seeing a pshycholgist for your social anxiety problems?
2007-02-12 03:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Morganna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋