We can't sleep...he's eating everything in sight and I can't eat...we can't concentrate...all we do is think about eachother. We're talking about marriage but feel we should wait to know eachother better...but I feel so sick and he feels so tired. When we are together it couldn't be better and we live 140 miles from eachother. What can we do to make this "getting to know" eachother time easier?
2007-02-12 01:36:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Slow down, its not a race and we are talking about spending the rest of your lives together. Distance is good for really thinking about what you want together.
2007-02-12 01:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by cici 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're in your 50's you know darn well you need to slow down and exercise a little caution here. Your darn tootin you should get to know each other a lot better before marriage enters the equation.
I'm all for making the most of your golden years, but all you seem to know is that you can't eat, he can't stop eating, neither of you can focus on anything but each other, your sick and he's tired.
Does seeing this in black and white make it a little clearer for you? I hope so. Don't be a fool, slow it down. Arrange time together ahead of time so that you're both well rested and lucid.
This is the wrong time of your life to fall headlong into a disaster you may never recover from. Good luck.
2007-02-12 09:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though I'm a Christion , I would say live together first because at our age, you can't be tooo sure about anything especially if a long term relationship was in both of your lives and Divorces also. We were married to different people, one for 22 years and one for 37 years. We've been dating for over 2 years, he's 58 and I'm 52. We've talked about living together but thats as far as its gotten. Marriage scares both of us right now and we love each other but sometimes I think about how nice it fills to live by myself without adjusting to someone elses habits. It would be cheaper and we'd save money but no decision has been made yet on either. The passion is definitely there but I'm learning more all the time we don't have alot of outside activities in common so think it over real good before ya'll jump into it because it costs alot of money for another Divorce and its a pain in the butt.We only see each other on Friday night , Saturdays and Sundays. Sometimes lunch on Wednesdays. His job hours suck.
2007-02-12 09:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a halfway point and meet for the weekends. Go out ,stay in, talk about everything under the stars. It IS possible.
My husband and lived 120 miles apart and then I moved halfway across the country. We spent the weekends together for 6 months then flew out to see each other 3 times in the following 6 months until he moved in with me half way across the country. We made it work.
2007-02-12 09:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, i suggest u move in with each other. this will cure everything. i had the same stuff when i met my man, now 2 years later i am breaking my head should i kick him out now or wait a little?
2007-02-12 09:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my man and I knew each other for a month or so before he traveled 1800 miles to be with me and we are soon to be married.
If you love each other...go for it and one of you move to be together
I wish you luck
be cool...
2007-02-12 09:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋