The right to be angry?

Question

My, so called friend, got mad at me because I said that I didn't want her to jump me about being sad about the loss of my dog. I feel that I could've saved her life by jumping to conclusions before she passed out. She ate some anti-freeze and her kidneys failed. When I realized she couldn't go to the bathroom, I should've taken her to the vet, instead, I thought it was just something she ate and that it would pass. My friends yelled at me for blaming myself (yelled over the internet.... with all of the !!!!!!!!! things at the end of a sentence) and I think I have a right to be mad at her. Do I?

Answer 1

First off, I am sorry for the loss of your dog. Pets are so special and losing them can be like losing a member of the family. When your friend told you your dog's death was not your fault she was most likey trying to comfort you. Just tell your friend that you understand things happen, and she may not feel it is your fault, but you still feel like there is something you could have done. It is understandable how you overlooked the situation, please try forgive yourself and realize you did not do this intentionally.

Answer 2

So, you are mad at your friend because she yelled at you for blaming yourself that your dog died. Wow, I have to think on that one. If this is your friend you need to separate her behavior from what you are feeling about the loss of the dog. She is right. Blaming yourself will not change things. You made a mistake and probably have paid for it many times over by blaming yourself, feeling guilty, trying to deal with the loss of your dog etc.. Friends sometimes want to help by easing this guilt. In so, they tell you not to worry when you do, not to feel bad when you do etc. because it makes them feel better about trying to help.
So, firgive yourself and your friend. She is still alive and could use a hug.

Answer 3

NO ! They are only trying to help you out by telling you it is not your fault . You probably would have taken her to the vet if you knew but you didn't . That doesn't make it your fault . You made a mistake many people have and that's thinking the dog was constipated . I am sure your friends did not mean any harm .

Answer 4

you have every right to be mad at her. At the world for that matter. Your friend is not much of a friend. she should look up the stages of grieving and loss and be more supportive. It is very normal to blame yourself in the death of a loved one. It is normal to be angry. It is normal to go threw shock. You need to be able to go threw all the steps to become normal agian. I can undrstand you problem as I just lost one of my dogs 2 weeks ago tomorrow. my presious baby boy. My heart goes out to you and time will heal your wounds.

Answer 5

no you don't really have the right to be mad at her because she was and is trying to help you out. you need to take heeth to what she is trying to tell you because it really is not your fault and you don'y need to beat yourself up over this. Once you lose a friend sometimes it is hard to get them back so don't let your friend go over this nonsense,

Answer 6

I think that your friends just wanna be there for you. Dont be mad at them and dont push them away. They being supportive.

Answer 7

Anger, as an emotion, is an as important as any other emotion. You show happiness, saddness, love etc to your friend. So why not anger?

Answer 8

Your friends shouldnt yell at you, they should be supportive

Answer 9

WELL IT WASNT UR FALUT IT HAPPEND WAS IT???.... ACCIDENTS HAPPEN.. AND YOUR FRIENDS SHOULDNT BE YELLIN @ U N BEIN MAD @ U.. INSTEAD DEY SHOUDL B SUPPORTIN U 4 DA LOSS OF YOUR DOG...