2007-02-12 01:29:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
so your not married are you
2007-02-12 01:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Not all mother-in-laws do. I had a wonderful mother-in-law. She's passed on now, God Bless her. She even lived with us for a little while. She was so pleasant and such a pleasure to be with 24/7. I was working at the time. I sure missed her when she moved out. She did my cleaning, laundry and cooking during the week days that I worked. When she moved back into her home which was being renovated, she only lived one mile from us. And still was so sweet the whole time she was on this earth. She never meddled into my husbands and my private affairs. She never ask quesitons. But, if I volunteered any information seeking guidence, she loveingly gave it. Now MY mom is the mother-in-law you describe. She's so stange, she was best friends to my husband until we got married. The day after the wedding she was enemy #1! She is the same with my brother and his wife. We tolerate her and avoid answering any of her questions, because she WILL meddle. I love her dearly, after all, she is my mom. But for some reason she gives her blessings when you announce you are going to get married, but after the wedding, she's all against it and swears she never liked that boy from the beginning! I think what happens with this type of person, is the fact that they were over domineering moms. You've heard of motherly love then there is smotherly love. These kind of moms give the smotherly love. When some one else steps in and takes over, they can't handle it. In thier mind, they feel they should have full control of both their child and thier child's partner. When they lose this, they feel that YOU have taken their precious little daughter/son away from them and has turned them against her. It's sad and stressful for all concerned. But we have learned to live with it. My advice is for you and your partner to do the same. You can suffer some bad consequences if you don't. Play the game. Be thankful you don't have to put up with her 24/7, but only temporarially. You will be thankful in the long run that you did. Show strength for your partner, for this is a lot of stress on her shoulders too.
2007-02-12 10:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL would be a massive generalisation there!! ;)
Perhaps the mother in laws you have encountered (which sounds like has been more than one) -- have been a bit protective of their (I assume daughter?)
It's pretty natural for a mother to be protective of her children...
Villains...?? Hmmm.... Have faith... A little one on one rapport building with the in-laws never does any harm...
Be the superhero in this story and bring down those villains the peaceful way!! ;)
B.
2007-02-12 09:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never realized how bad my mother in law was until people in MY family pointed stuff out about her. Her being controlling. Her wanting to be center of attention. Her being loud. Her always playing the sympathy card. And never, ever wanting to babysit her granddaughter. My mom and sis-n-law does.
Oh yeah, always taking my hubby's younger brother's side. We have made it a point not to go there as often as we used to.
I thought that she was great until....
2007-02-12 10:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by izzitonme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one heck of a generalisation which I can disprove instantly - my mother-in-law is a very nice person and in no way any sort of villain
2007-02-12 09:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because they have the overwhelming feeling that no one will ever be good enough for their baby, no matter how old you get. They insist that they mean well, but do they realize the road to hell is paved with good intentions?
2007-02-12 09:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by Amy V 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol Not all of them are. My ex-MIL was very nice. A little nosy at times but otherwise nice. Can't say the same about her son though lol
2007-02-12 09:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by tuxgal3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all mil's are villians. my ex-mil was okay. A little crazy but okay. I think they seem like villians because you marry their babies and they expect you to treat them in a certain way or perhaps she's never liked you.
2007-02-12 09:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by MI 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wish i knew. the weird thing is it does semm like everyone i know has this same problem. i think that it is everyone has grown up in different ways, and you don't know how to combine your ways, plus the mom is "sharing"their child???
2007-02-12 09:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
XD This question made me laugh hard when I read it
seriously
I do not know!! Good thing to wonder though
2007-02-12 09:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rearrange all the letters in mother-in-law, use all the letters, what do you get?
Woman Hitler
2007-02-12 09:38:58 · answer #11 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋