My boyfriend might get expelled from college cos of his low GPA, & my father is forcing me to marry someone he thinks is right for me (too complicated),we were on the phone an hour ago n'he said that if he did get expelled he wants me to forget him coz he thinks there won't be a future for us if he doesn't have a BA,he wants to sell everything & leave the country..
I want to help make the dean give him a second chance to raise his gpa but he asked me not to get involved in it. Im really worried about him, he's been through soo much in the last couple of years & I really need to do something about it.I love him soo much & I just cant see him go through this alone.he has a 1.05 from 4& anything below 1.50 is not allowed in this college.
I can't lose him & I can't just sit there & see him go through this alone. I need to help, I need to convince the dean to give him one last chance. If they expelle him(God Forbid),He won't handle it, I know him very well.
Please help me find a solution
2007-02-12 01:22:22 · 7 answers · asked by Candy Apple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He loves me more than anything & i know it , this isn't some excuse to break up, n'he wants to marry me but he knows my dad wont allow that to happen if he doesn't have a BA,& college is a big deal for him, the reason why his gpa got low was for other family issues,it has nothing to do with being careless. trust me.
about my dad forcing me, we're not living inthe states & it's a tradition here .. :(
2007-02-12 02:04:05 · update #1
I think u should talk to the dean about his situation & ask for one last chance.
2007-02-12 01:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said God Forbid. I am then assuming you are a christian. Pray for him. He asked you not to interfere and I think you should honor that. Let him know you are there for him. It's possible he is not as interested in a relationship as you are? Your boyfriend must have known for quite some time that his grades are failing and should have worked on it then. I doubt asking the Dean to change college rules will work unless the grades were given falsely and then you'd have to prove it. Your father is forcing you to marry another? How will that work into your relationship with this man? You need to decide which way you will go. With your father or your boyfriend. Second, if you chose your boyfriend, you need to clarify whether he shares these feelings. One doesn't have to have a BA to be happy and succeed in life. I wonder if this is not just a cop out for him.
2007-02-12 09:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by VW 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him then you need to get involved. If you have that
much power over the dean then go for it. If your boyfriend really
does want to be in college you'll be doing him a favor by talking to
the dean. Just remember that if things don't work out for you two
that you did do a good deed by helping him to have a better future....good luck
2007-02-12 09:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Karen K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are torn up over this situation - and I can understand your distress. However, in this situation your boyfriend is the one who needs to address this - maybe he is not ready to get serious about his studies. He needs to be the one to go to the dean and make his education a priority. I know it is probably very hard to sit by and just watch - but just support him and give him encouragement. No one can force him to learn, he has to be ready.
As far as your father forcing you to marry someone else, I am sorry. I can not understand that - since my culture is one of marrying for love. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-12 09:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by Leah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then I say go for it and try to help the one you love but think first ..... does this boy feel the same about you ? Does he really want to finish school or even go to the same school? You need to think about that b/c maybe he isn't really down for you anymore and doesn't want to tell you b/c he knows that it will hurt you to bad but think about that. And the thing with your father that is crazy but I myself say you need to step up to your father and tell him how it is.
2007-02-12 09:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Cherri09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure where you are from that your father MAKES you marry someone... doesnt happen in the US... your BF seems to be ditching you and using school as an excuse... talk to him about that
2007-02-12 09:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u should go ahead n do everything u can to help him b/c even tho he says he doesnt want help he needs it n he will thank u for the help u have given him
2007-02-12 09:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by sccrthugz4life 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋