how can i stop negative thoughts?

Answer 1

Follow these principles of life below, they have helped me alot, and brought me peace of mind.
Please read everything Patiently and slowly Thx

"What in the world is the difference between loving a person, and being attached to them? Love is the sincere wish, for others to be happy for others and free from suffering. Having realistically realized other’s kindness, as well as their faults, Love is Always focused on the other person’s welfare. We have no ulterior intensions or motives to fulfill our own self-interests; or to fulfill our own desires, we love others, all people, simply because they exist. Attachment, on the other hand, exaggerates others’ good qualities, and makes us crave to be with them. When we’re with them, we are happy, but when we’re separated from them, we’re miserable. Attachments are always linked with expectations of what others should be, or what they should do for us. Is love, as it is understood in most societies, really love OR attachment ? Let us examine this a little more. Generally speaking, we are attracted {drawn to) people because they have qualities we value, or because they help us in some way. If we carefully observe, through introspection, our own thought processes we’ll notice that we very often look for specific qualities in others. Some of these qualities we are drawn to, finding them attractive, others are qualities within our parents, or qualities which society values.
We examine someone’s looks, education, social status, financial status, and so forth. This is how Most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value, or not. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us. If they praise us, encourage us, help us, if they listen to what we have to say, if they make us feel secure, if they take care of us when were sick, unhappy or depressed, we consider them good, or sometimes righteous people, and these are the people we more drawn to, whom we are most likely attracted to, and the people we choose to be around with.
In all honesty, this is very biased, for we are judging them, only in terms of how they relate to us, as if we are the most important person in the world & thinking the world revolves around us! After we’ve judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them, it appears to us as if goodness is radiating out from within them, but as we are more mindfully aware, we realize that we have projected this goodness on to them.
Desiring to be the people who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo’s, when we’re with these people, we’re up, but when we’re not with them, we’re down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with these people will be, and thus have expectations of them. When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we’re unhappy, disappointed or may even become angry. We want them to change so that they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from other people. Our problems arise not because others aren’t who we thought they were, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they were not. We often use a type of Checklist also. Checklist: “I Love You IF ___________ !” This Love is Conditional and what we call love, is most often attachment. It is actually an attitude which overestimates the qualities of another person.
Then we cling tightly to that person, thinking our peace and happiness depends on that person. We even often blame that person for our unhappiness. Love, on the other hand, is a very patient, calm, optimistic and relaxed attitude. We want others to be free from suffering and to be happy simply because they exist. While attachments are uncontrolled, and too emotionally sentimental, Love is Patient, powerful, and controlled(disciplined). Attachment obscures our judgment {our ability to make sound, wise decisions), and we become impatient, angry, and impartial – helping our dear ones, and those who do us no harm. Love clarifies our mind, & we access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachment is based on selfishness, while love is founded on valuing, & cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to us. Love always looks beyond all the superficial appearances and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want peace of mind, happiness, and wish to avoid suffering. If we see unattractive, or unintelligent people we most often feel repulsed, because our selfish minds want to find attractive, intelligent, and talented people. On the other hand, Love never evaluates others by theses superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others appearances, they’re experiences are they same as ours: they want inner mental peace, happiness, and wish to be from suffering. When we’re attached, we’re not mentally, emotionally, & spiritually free. For we overly depend on, and cling to another person, to fulfill our emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. We fear losing the person, fearing that we’d be incomplete without them. This does Not mean that we should suppress all our emotional needs, or become aloof, and totally independent, for that too would not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs and slowly, gently and patiently – seek to eliminate them. If we try to suppress them, pretending they do not exist, we become insecure, anxious, or possibly depressed. In this case, we do our best to fulfill our needs, while simultaneously working gradually to subdue them. The core problem is that most of us seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others, rather than to understand them. Our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfish obscuring of our own minds. We develop confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a Selfless human being, having many magnificent qualities, then we’ll develop and have an accurate perception of ourselves, gaining self-confidence. We’ll seek to increase true unconditional love, to increase compassion, to cultivate patience, as well as generosity, right concentration and wisdom. Under the influence of attachment, we’re bound by our unstable emotional reactions to others. When they’re nice to us, we’re happy, but when they ignore us or speak sharply to us, we take it personally, and are unhappy. But pacifying attachment doesn’t mean we become hard-hearted, rather without attachments, there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine affection and impartial love for them. And as a result, we’ll be more actively involved with them. As we learn to transform our minds & lives, through subduing our attachments, we can definitely have successful friendships, and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer, more meaningful because of the freedom and respect the relationships are based on. We’ll really care about the happiness and misery of all human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same inside: we all want inner peace of mind, Happiness, and to be from suffering.
However, of course, our lifestyles and interests may be a bit more compatible with some people. Our friendships and our personal relationships will be based on mutual interests, and to help other people. Having such an attitude, we’ll be much More Patient, & tolerant toward others; will remain mentally calm, having Peace of Mind AND Happiness, and Will communicate successfully with others in life."

Answer 2

I use humor when I can, and avoid negative people as much as possible. OMG these people seem to thrive on getting others to join them in misery. I also try, not always successfully, to notice what has gone well as opposed to focusing on what didn't turn out. Accepting life's disappointments knowing from experience that many events that initially appear negative turn out to be OK, or even to be good things when all is said and done.
Some negative situations can be turned around to show their lighter side once you get in the habit. Example: traffic is heavy and people are driving with rude selfish abandon, so I'll try to enjoy watching them like it was a competition, knowing they are rushing off to the A**hole convention to receive their awards.
Anyway, good luck, it's not easy, and it's OK to be blue from time to time. Just don't live there.

Answer 3

Think Big. You should have a safe dream, which takes you higher. Then Think Good, Be Good, always Do Good. Then normally you will develop the commanding power to say NO to all negative thoughts..

Answer 4

You can't. They happen to everyone. Sometime's negative thoughts are going to creep into your head. You just have to put them out of your head and move on. Negative thoughts don't make you a bad person, acting on negative thoughts is what makes them bad.

Answer 5

No such thing as spells that really work. Doing good things is the answer. Doing things for others without expecting anything in return. Living the way God wants you to. That's what works.

Answer 6

First you have cleanse your mind by praying and seeking God's guidance. Second, now that you have faith, start thinking that God is everywhere and He will guide you, in that case all negative thoughts will disappear. Avoid people with negative attitude.

Answer 7

its imposible to stop them,but just try to b more and more positve,always see the bright side,try to ignore meaningless things.when negative thoughts come to ur mind,at tht moment just think of some good things or memories.
Good luck:)

Answer 8

I assume you mean your own.

You have to believe that you are worthy of good things happening to you and stop listening to others if/when they put you down.

Find your passion and don't let anyone stop you from living it. People who live their passion attract the most interesting people.

Answer 9

Replace them with positive ones.

Answer 10

Always try to look at a glass as half full rather than half empty.

Answer 11

The conscious and the subconscious regions of the psyche mutually influence each other and this interaction effects our life on a gross(material) and subtle (astral and causal) front.

The subconscious mind contains our memories, karmic imprints and emotional drives. It is the Allahdin’s lamp of the conscious mind. ‘As I think so I become’. For example if at the slightest pretext my conscious mind starts a refrain of- ‘I am so unlucky, I am a failure, my life is really sad’ - then your magical genie within, ie your subconscious mind has no option ,but to attract people and events which will reinforce your feelings and thoughts of being unlucky and a failure.

It is your responsibility and dharma to understand the workings of your mind and train it to make conscious, life affirming choices.

Here are ten steps to programme your psyche for a positive self-esteem :

1 Recognize the voice of the inner critic who produces thoughts like-‘I am no good’, ‘Nobody loves me’, etc .Challenge their validity. Most of the times we belittle ourselves because of an excessive attachment to our name and form, leading to distorted perceptions. Check the accuracy of your perceptions. List the people who do love you; remind yourself of the instances when you were successful-maybe you succeeded in making someone smile, or prepared a delicious meal or made a fantastic presentation in your office.

2 Maintain a record of your thoughts. How many of these erode your inner self worth. Look at them objectively and evaluate them as black if your perception has been distorted by emotionalism; white –if they are genuine. For instance if the recent appraisal at office grades your performance in the last quarter as mediocre, look at your reactions. Do you tend to blame your boss or wife as the cause? This victim mentality hampers growth. Instead take complete responsibility and search for causes within your thinking( negative thoughts ), behaviour (procastination) and fears (fear of failure) which have given negative suggestions to the creator within (subconscious mind) and sabotaged your success.

Five minutes of breath mindfulness >>


3. Five minutes of breath mindfulness trains your mind to quickly switch from a particular frequency to another. This is best done just before sleeping .Observe the slow and rhythmic rise and fall of your abdomen .Count sheep backwards from 25-0 .This gets you to the alpha level where your subconscious is most amenable to suggestions

4. When you have reached this stage, mentally repeat a positive affirmation of self worth , such as, ‘I love and honour myself. I am confident of success and happiness in my life, as I do my best and let go of the rest ‘.

5. Let your actions in the waking state be in accordance to your positive affirmations. Integral effort of thought , word and deed is required.

6 . Sometimes your core feeling can come forth in indirect forms as a feeling of annoyance at others, irritation, debilitating self pity or grief. The trick with feelings as opposed to thoughts is to sit down alone when you are in the throes of the feeling and look at the feeling itself. If this makes you cry or you want to punch your pillow, that’s fine too. After some such sessions you realize how ridiculous all this is.

7. Tell yourself that the whole world is suffering. Even people who appear prosperous and trouble free, have some suffering or the other. You are not special. Cultivate empathy and compassion for others

8. Sit in a quiet, peaceful place; close your eyes and visualize yourself open up to the light of divine grace, like a flower blossoms to receive the warm, life giving rays of the sun. Be receptive to the healing of the transformational capacity of divine grace.

9. Practice giving to others without any motive . Give encouragement, motivation, a smile, a glass of water, time, money and energy. When you give and share, your own blessings multiply.

10. Do not be preoccupied with results. Now that you have acted from your highest level, trust life!

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