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Question

I am a woman. When I am attracted to a man, it starts off with an attraction to his personality....his integrity,compassion,intellige... of humor. I respect something about him. As time goes on these feelings make him physically attractive to me. (Have I lost you,yet?!)
My opinion is that men are either attracted physically from the beginning, or they move on. Am I right or wrong? Please be honest.

Answer 1

I admit that physical attraction is a primary component of immediate interest... however, hanging around with a woman who may not have sparked interest at the beginning but then finding out that she's cool (whichever definition you wish to use for this one) can increase my attraction. I've met women I wasn't immediately attracted to but then find that they grow more and more attractive the more I'm around them.

This is somewhat similar to a situation I find repeating in many of my relationships. I tell her that she's beautiful and she, of course, doesn't believe it. I try and explain that the relationship and her traits/personality make her more beautiful than any other woman out there... and that she's beautiful. And she doesn't believe it. Now, this doesn't break us up, but it shows that she's not confident in herself (confidence is very attractive).

Answer 2

I say every man is different, some this is the case and some not.

I have always been attracted to who a person is, making a relationship or simply a friendship is a hard thing to do at times, so you have to know who you are compatible too (sure I spelled that wrong) anyway if there is no psychological spark there is no need for romance.

I hope this helps, though I have often been known as both the romantic and the fool so wether you take heed is totally up to you.

Good luck with it all.

Answer 3

For the most part, there are physical things that attract me to a woman but if I find her personality and mine aren't working then I am no longer attracted, and there have been a few women that i wasn't initially attracted to physically but personality took over and I became attracted to them physically.

Answer 4

You're simplifying things. Women are attracted by good looks as much as men. Men are more visual, granted, but a woman with a compatible personality can become physically attractive - the guy will smack himself and think "why didn't I see that before? She's beautiful!" Women can become physically attracted right off too. It all depends and hasn't ever been explained. Explain internet flirting, where there are no visual cues. Both sexes do it. OK?

Answer 5

You are 100% correct. Men are visual creatures. We must find a woman attractive before the other part becomes interesting.

Answer 6

That's not true of all men. It all depends on the individual. It's my common belief that you should always start off with what you can't see, like personality, maturity, humor, passion, etc....and the physical will take care of itself.

Answer 7

personally prefer the personality, loyalty, honesty, etc. in a Lady. remember " good looks don't last -- good cookin' do. " and a person may have a beautiful physical body but be void of all good qualities while another may not be physically beautiful but have all the good qualities a person could ask for.

Answer 8

a certain physical attraction should be there from the beginning.

Answer 9

Yes, men are attracted visually and women emotionally.

Answer 10

It is true if you ask me, but in the end I will not date a girl who has good looks but no personality to go with it!