This is something I have been trying to understand for a while now, and maybe all of you can make me understand.
Have been in a relationship for a few years, things were going fine till she started talking with her Ex, now all we do is fight, argue, ect... and I do not start them, nor do I finish them as well. I can say that I have been thinking that something is going on between her and him for a while. I say this because of the secret phone calls, and when I say something she gets really upset, at me ! Then she will disapear for hours and when I ask about that, " oh I did this and that " and I know that she is hiding something, she will not look at me. Sex has stopped pretty much, and ect....
So I will ask --- is this in my head, or am I jumping to conclusions ?
2007-02-12 00:59:50 · 5 answers · asked by madman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You already know, so I'm just going to confirm your suspicions. If she doesn't have the integrity to end your relationship by being honest with you, then you must do it yourself, and you certainly should.
She is cheating on you. The defensiveness is just one more symptom of the problem. All cheaters try to get the person they're cheating on to believe that they are either being paranoid, or that it's all their fault. If they were a better boyfriend or girlfriend, husband, wife, lover, whatever, then they wouldn't have felt the need to look outside the relationship. Bullshit.
Cheaters are liars and manipulators. Dump this sorry excuse for a girlfriend that you have and don't even think of taking her back. I don't know why her ex is her ex, but, I'm willing to bet, they deserve each other.
Get out, you will get over it. Find someone new who will appreciate a loyal and giving man. Good luck to you.
2007-02-12 01:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one on here can know exactly what is going on.... but from your details, it does sound a wee bit fishy. I would not be surprised if there was something going on between her and her ex. Even if she is not sexually active with him, just the emotional contact with him could be pulling her away from you and causing her to feel guily and act out. If there is truly nothing going on with the ex then I would have to say there is still a problem within your relationship - it does not sound like you two are on the same page anymore. You may want to consider if this is the type of relationship you want to be in.... these are not easy decisons, best of luck to you with everything you decide.
2007-02-12 09:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not jumping to conclusions. She is straying somewhere and hiding it. It would be best to break it off and move on.
2007-02-12 09:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So I will ask --- is this in my head, or am I jumping to conclusions ?
no sir, its staring you in the face.
what you are thinking is probably true.
2007-02-12 09:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it is real and not in your head, why not follow her? and if she is with the ex then just realize that its over with you two and save yourself from anymore heartache
2007-02-12 09:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋