It's been rough latley my Grandfather passed and it's been hard . Well my b/f has been hateful through the whole ordeal . I been trying not to take my grief and hurt from my Grandfather passin a few days ago out on my b/f . I have done a good job . But my b/f just keeps nagging at me about everything i do . And how i do everything wrong . Now I bought a laptop so i could talk to my mom and dad more . He ended the relationship !! Mind you I do not talk to no one on here but him , my mom , and now my dad . So i don't see the big problem .. Could you help me to understand where I have went so wrong ??? He is telling me now that if I take the laptop back then he will come back . I love him but he has a poor attitude with me alot and i dont know what to think .
2007-02-12 00:45:06 · 20 answers · asked by Dawn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is pretty close with his family thats one reason I don't understand why he is so down on me for buying this to talk to my mom and dad . I also bought it for my 4 kids to use to and he wont look at it that way . It's like he dont wsant me to have anything that takes any of my time away from him .
2007-02-12 01:23:04 · update #1
He is a control freak and you need to keep him away especially, from your children. your children watch adults, mother or father (guardian) and when they get older about 70-80 % of children exposed to abusive relationships become abusive to their (spouse) or get abused by their spouse.
Your parent have a birth right to talk to you!!! Who do he think he is to pull you from your parents. That alone is a violation!!!
Please stay away from him, he is not a healthy person to be around. In a relationship both are equal and both agrees equally.
It seem he don't care about how you feel only about himself!!!
Think about it, he want you to deal with anyone if he can push you in basement with lock the door, he would and he will come and visit when he wants to be bothered, if you look at it he is doing it to you now, you are being program to lock yourself out of the world.
he is blocking your blessings. he is very insecure!!!
2007-02-12 02:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by seeking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're the two 14. that's what's incorrect. Whaddya choose to do, marry the guy? My suggestion is do no longer difficulty approximately it. If issues are not like they was once, then possibly it's time to interrupt up and circulate on. you will the two recover from it. undergo in strategies, ALL relationships bring about the two a wreck-up or a dying. that's no longer meant to be cynnical, basically real looking. the factor is, settle for this certainty, take excitement on your existence, take excitement in being with human beings, and are not getting too bent out of shape while it would not paintings out.
2016-11-03 05:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you sweet sweet dear it is not your fault, your boy friend is what I would call a class A jerk.
Please do not get mad at me please I am just telling you the truth.
If he can't deal with the fact that you bought a lap top to talk to your mom and dad more then something is wrong with him and not you.
If he finds fault in everything you do sweetie you really need to find some one that will appreciate you for you and not analyze everything that you do.
One he is very insecure thinks more of himself than he does you, thinks he is smarter than you are.
And how I know all this my sister married someone just like him.
He changed but it took my sister years and years of praying and a little more.
Find someone new dear It is not your fault that you are smarter than he is he is just jealous.
2007-02-12 01:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tom Sawyer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss and I definately know what you are going through. Both my grandfathers died, my brother died when he was 17 in a car wreck in 1999 and me and my son found my dad dead in the summer of 2005. He was mowing grass and apparantly suffered a massive heart attack.
To get to the point, I was married when my brother died and my ex-husband told me just to get over it and told me that I should've been buried in the coffin with my brother b/c I died that day with him. He has never lost anyone more than a grandfather and he isn't close with his family - he moved to a different state than them. Needless to say, this man is my EX. Don't let anybody tell you to get over it because death affects all people in different ways. It will get better with time but it definately takes time. I would just drop him.
Don't give your love to someone who doesn't love you.
2007-02-12 00:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by K-E-G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a JACKASS - the pressure of something or someone else being the center of your attention for a while just brought it out in him.
Dump that loser. Make new friends. Keep the laptop. Talk with your parents on it. To HELL with control freak insecure little babies like that doofus.
2007-02-12 00:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what to think. I think you should keep the laptop and buy another one if you want to. I think your boyfriend is an inconsiderate control freak with absolutely no compassion. I think your boyfriend is trying to isolate you from family and friends so that you will be at his beck and call and under his thumb 24/7. I think you should lose this bastard before he does any more damage to your life.
I lost my parents at a very young age, if they were alive and my boyfriend told me to stop communicating with them, he'd be limping for a year from the kick in the balls he'd get from me.
Don't take this bullshit, he left you, consider yourself lucky to be well rid of him.
2007-02-12 01:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a guilty concious and serious control issues. If you give in to his request then he will learn he has power over you to control everything. it starts with a laptop, then maybe the way you dress, who your friends can be and so on, get out now nad find someone else.
2007-02-12 00:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is stay close to your family and forget him! In this time of need you need your family not him, especially since he doesnt seem to wanna be there. He seems very selfish - to not wanna help you through this and not let you talk to your family. Please get out and stay out now - he's on the verge of controlling your every move and you dont need that. Not now, not ever.
2007-02-12 00:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my question to you is? does your boyfriend have a close relationship with his family, because my ex husband never did! and i am very close to my parents and my sister and every time something come up with them, he would get angry and jealous, and if they rang the house he would leave the phone ring until i answered it. He hated my sister, i never understood what he had against her.
I dont think its you doing wrong, i think he wants to cut you off from them because he wants you too himself, and now you have the laptop and being in contact with them any time you want, its making it hard for him to cope with.
sounds like he is controlling you, and that's not good. you need to decided if you want him controling your life or get out will you can.
2007-02-12 01:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by lolly12341812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a twit, that realises that you're better than him and is scared of losing you and instead of being mature and talking to you about it he's trying to control you so that you feel like you can't be without him!
He doesn't realise he's doing it, and he's not doing it purposely he's just trying to control the situation. I f you love him, get yourselves to counselling to work it out between you, if he won't do that admit to yourself that he's a loser and try to move on.
2007-02-12 23:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by ✩☆✩HAPPINESS✩☆✩ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋