really stop u doing everyhting u wanted to do? Im 26 weeks pregnant, andI hear so many people say that once the baby is here your sex life will disapear, u won't be a ble to travel, u won't have any money, u won't be able to sleep, blah blah blah. But surely, with exception of maybe the first year, u can still do all the things u want to in life? I have travelled in my life, but plan to do a lot more, and can't wait to take baby along for the cultural experience. In fact, i would imagine it would be more fun with your child along!! i really can't see that having a baby should stop me doing anything really, surely its a state of mind to a degree... if u think u can't/shouldn't do it, then u won't!!!
2007-02-12 00:30:52 · 16 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
LILY, YOUR GREAT. YOU ALREADY ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION. STOP LISTENING TO YOUR FRIENDS OR RELATIVES. NO YOUR SEX LIFE DOESN'T STOP. YOU WILL LEARN AND GROW IN YOUR SEX LIFE BEING PREGNANT. YOU DO GET A LITTLE AHEAD OF TIME WITH CULTURE WITH YOUR BABY. THIS IS SOMETHING YOU MIGHT WANT TO WAIT UNTIL THEY CAN HAVE AS MUCH FUN AS YOU. I DO NOT KNOW YOU LILY ,BUT I BET YOUR GOING TO BE A WONDERFUL,LOVING,CARING, AND A GREAT MOM. I COMMEND YOU FOR ONLY BEING 26WEEKS AND HAVE SUCH A POSITIVE NOTE. FROM A MOTHER TO A MOTHER TO BE. I WISH MORE KIDS HAD PARENTS WHO CARED. YOU CAN ALREADY START READING TO YOUR BABY. ALONG WITH MUSIC ON HEAD PHONES,RUBBING YOUR BELLY AND TALKING. IF YOU KNOW THE SEX OF YOUR BABY,SAY THE BABIES NAME WHEN TALKING AND ECT.....WITH WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING TO YOU,IF IT WERE MY BABY, I'D CALL HIM OR HER DESTINY. DO NOT STOP ANYTHING LILY. MAY GOD PROTECT AND BLESS YOU AND BABY, LILY. PS.NOT EVERYONE LOVES A CHILD LIKE THEY SHOULD BE LOVED......
2007-02-12 01:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by dominica m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first year is really hard. My baby is only 6 weeks old, and yes I'm losing sleep, and we're broke right now. We don't go out much right now by ourselves, but we still go see friends. We just take the baby with us.
As for sex, now that I'm allowed again, after the first uncomfortable time it's actually better then it was BEFORE the baby. So we have to have more quickies. Soon the baby will sleep longer in the evening and we can take our time. I feel like a teenager again though.
We probably won't travel as much for a couple of years until our son is older but that doesn't mean we won't.
I'm only 24, my husband is 31. I had a baby I'm not dead. We've been married 5 years and I plan to continue to enjoy my husband and my life. Things have and will change but that won't mean we don't do anything.
2007-02-12 09:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People on the whole exagerate. Even in the first year you can still do most of what you would like to (within reason). There is no reason you cannot travel. When I'm not pregnant my husband and I's sex life is just fine :) And really, who ever has enough money? The sleep thing is a bit rough until the child starts sleeping through the night though. (but mine started doing that as early as 2 1/2 months). It really is very dependant on your own state of mind. Traveling with a child can be fun, it can also be terrible. It depends on the child and their mood and your abilities as a parent to handle the given situations. I say live your life the way you like. Just try to remember to stick to a basic sheduale (ie same bedtime/bathtime, dinner at about the same time, up at the same time) it REALLY does help.
2007-02-12 08:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby does not STOP everything. It does CHANGE things. You may not get as much sleep but I'll tell you, the sleep you do get, will be wonderful since you really will appreciate every minute. And sex, it may be different. But it will also be very awesome knowing that you made a child with this person. You may have to modify the noises when the baby gets older of course, so they don't wind up in counseling. Things did change when we had our boys. Things like I slowed down, I learned to appreciate things more, I learned that somethings that I thought really mattered, just didn't and I learned to laugh and laugh. Roll with it, don't sweat the small stuff, enjoy being pregnant with your first, it will only happen once! And, if you get down, go shopping for baby clothes!!!! Soooo fun!!!! Congrats and good luck!
2007-02-12 08:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by TamBam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was six weeks from my due date, my husband's Guard unit was activated for a vacation in Iraq. That left me at home, facing my first pregnancy. I didn't have a choice - I HAD to keep on living my life. By the time the little guy was three weeks old, he'd traveled across five states! He went to church at 3 days old, and the grocery store at 4 days. You just do what you have to do.
I know people who holed themselves up in their house with a baby for months. Not me! I learned pretty quickly that an outing with a baby takes some planning, but it can certainly be done. Just make sure that your baby doesn't take backseat to the fun things you want to do, and you'll be just fine.
By the way - hubby came home after 3 months. By then, I was well settled into a routine with my little man. We made it just fine on our own!
2007-02-12 08:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are there times when you can't do what you want, yes; I see people drag their child/baby out late at night and they are cranky b/c they need to be home in bed getting rest; you can have a healthy happy mix but it will be a mix; a baby isn't a toy to do as you please with to satisfy only your needs; a baby is alive and needs to be treated as such to nurture their needs as well as yours but as a Mom of 4 (went back to school and got my degree) you can do what you need to do but you have to put some of your things on the back burner until the appropriate time and as children grow they have their own likes and dislikes; this is part of parenthood but when push comes to shove, I would lay down my life for my children , there is no greater bond or love than that; no cultural experience can give you what the love for and from a child can; no comparison.
Money comes and money goes; that isn't what is important in life; now that my children are grown; I don't care about the money, the house, the culture, etc; I miss being with them , hearing the noise, missing the sleep, who cares, in the end, if it was your last day on earth , would this be a priority ? If not then it isn't now.
2007-02-12 08:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by sml 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, you have a bunch of supportive people in your circle....why would they fill your head with that. dont listen to them. you are still going to be a person, the same as before only now youll have a baby and be a mom too. having a baby does change your life, but for the better. of course at first things will be hard while you adjust, but soon the baby starts to sleep through the night and you get a routine and then life is easier. and as for the sex drive...dont buy it...watching your husband (and vice versa) be a dad and talk in little baby voices and all that stuff is pretty amazing...i think that you fall in love on a whole different level. you can still do whatever you want..well to some degree i suppose.. you of course can still travel only now youll have to take the entire house with you :) i wouldnt worry about a thing, babies are a blessing, you are going to have so much fun, but it is important to remember to have some time for yourself once in awhile and time with your hubby if your married. you will be fine, dont listen to those encouraging people filling your head with negativity towards the greatest adventure of your life!! have fun
2007-02-12 08:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by loveboatcaptain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people who're telling you about all the things you can't do once you have a child are on crack. My son is 8 months old and our lifestyle has changed very little. Yes, we plan ahead a bit more than we once did, and we're more aware of our finances.... but a child doesn't prevent you from doing anything, you just have to learn how to adapt what you want to do to being able to do it with a child.
The people who tell you life stops once you have a kid are the people who haven't learned how to adapt. Rather than figuring out a way to make it work, they just throw their hands up and proclaim that kids tie you down and keep you from having fun.... NOT TRUE! You can still do everything you want to do, you just may have to plan it out a little more and save up a little longer for it.
Congrats and good luck!
2007-02-12 08:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Tina K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, i mean maybe to some degree but not completely. the baby will get used to your life style and adapt to it. my son is 22 months old and LOVES going places. its his fav. thing in the world. when we are stuck at home he gets so bored. so you will still be able to do things you just have to take a little more steps to bring everything for baby which is a lot. i'd start slow until the baby is a year or so as far as the traveling goes.
2007-02-12 08:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by island_chick21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby shouldn't stop you at all. People seem to think that once a baby comes into the home, lives come to an end and that is simply not true. Yes..you are correct in saying it is a state of mind.
2007-02-12 08:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋