My daughter aged 8 1/2 and her freinds have been talking about sex and how you do it.... What age do you think that they should or could be told about the real facts about sex?
2007-02-11 22:51:30 · 26 answers · asked by carinaburke 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Absolutely. Tell her the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. At eight she's plenty old enough to be curious and to understand - my children are seven and eight and I answer all their quesions as fully as I can.
When they were younger my daughter asked me where babies come from and I told her that when a mummy and a daddy love each other very much they have babies. In her lovely little child's mind she took this to mean that mummy and daddy didn't love each other any more because we hadn't had any more babies! She advised us that perhaps we should love each other again. Awww ... served me right - should have just told her the truth in the first place - I've learned from that mistake ha ha
2007-02-11 22:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, do not call private parts 'dirty'.
Sex ed is taught in grade five in Canada, complete with anatomy diagrams and STD awareness. I think the idea is to wait until all of the kids are going through puberty. With your daughter, it is important to keep her protected from images or experimentation - exposure to something sexual that she does not know how to process could do significant damage to her development.
I would tell her that when a man and a woman love each other, they share a special kind of love. They can grow close together in private, and in time, they can have a little baby that will grow bigger and bigger. There's no merit to the idea of getting more graphic.
Furthermore, if the girls she plays with are older than her, and they're all talking about this stuff, I'd want them to either find a new topic when your daughter is around, or, if need be, find younger friends for her.
Good luck.
2007-02-11 23:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity at the same time as i grow to be 14...yet i grow to be almost in the 10th grade.at the starting up i needed to be apologetic about it.And my mom did not discover out till i grow to be relationship yet another guy and had the suspicion of being pregnant.I wasn't besides the undeniable fact that it is a scare.I did besides the undeniable fact that get pregnant at the same time as i grow to be 15 and head over heels in-love.i'm now 17 and my daughter is a million.that is not any longer elementary. do not forget that some thing can take position.From what I discovered u can get pregnant from pre-***...with higher possibilities.i do not prefer to furnish u a lecture bout std's,cuz im particular u already understand.Jus b carefull.you need to attend till ur with the single u can imagine spending atleast the subsequent few years with...properly i dn't wanna be a soreness.So solid success.tell them once you're waiting.desire this helps ::DD
2016-12-04 02:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if they're old enough to question they're old enough to know the answers but obviously in a way and to a degree that is age apprioriate. I remember a friend of mine going through it with her 7 year old son and she didn't know how or what to say. There are loads of books out there that will be appropriate for her age to help you start explaining.
If you make it a mystery thats when they will take other routes to find the information out or get mis information.
Luckily I've got a few years before my one starts these questions!
2007-02-11 22:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im so glad you put this question.i was slated months ago by someone on here because i dared to ask if there were any good books for 7 yr old to explain the birds and the bees.most responses i got were good but one felt the need to go and put in her own question "ive just seen question that has really annoyed me" mine .my son had asked how babies get inside the mums tummy and i gave him a very watered down version of sex he didnt bat an eyelid,thought bits were funny and some bits he didnt believe!!LOL good on you for asking the question.i think whatever you tell her needs to be age related one woman said she couldnt believe i was telling a 7 yr old a man "shoves"his penis in there!! i didnt put it like that at all .better to tell her the truth as the playground can get a bit like chinese whispers.my son thought the baby came out youre bum!!.good luck
2007-02-12 01:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by smiler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the right age for ur daughter to know about sex. its better if answers come from you or she might try her ways to find answers. and most important this is the age where u can b good friends with her. giving her right advice at right time like a friend.
this will i am sure enhance ur relationship and she wont hide her feeling too if u talk to her as a friend.
happy parenting
sweetu
2007-02-11 22:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Namrata R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awnser truthfully and get a facts book for her explain things in clear language and remember if she asks you now and you don't tell her then the next time she has a question she may not ask and end up in trouble Don't speak to her friends but do advise they're parent that they have been asking as they may need guidence to
2007-02-11 23:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find a dvd or video that is child friendly on the subject, then sit her down to watch it together. Usually those sorts of dvds are watched as part of eduation at schools and will not leave too much unexplained. You should also be aware that if she is not mature enough she will not grasp the concept.
2007-02-11 22:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats probably the perfect age, old enough to understand the facts. Just keep if truthful and be open to any questions she may have. Its better for her to get the facts from you rathewr than confused ones from her friends!!
2007-02-11 22:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by charlotte e 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My policy has always been if they're old enough to ask, they're old enough to know. Trying to hide it away would probably make her more curious and she could end up with a pretty warped view of what it's all about if you leave it to her friends to inform her. Buy a book aimed at children and this situation and let her know you're open to questions when she's finished it. Good luck with it. :O)
2007-02-11 22:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by El 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋