If you were me, How would you respond to my Girlfriend's e-mail? Please help!! Thank-you!?

Question

Dearest Sexy,

I have a proposition for you. I have been thinking about this for many many days now, so I am 100% sure this is something I'd personally like to do.

Remember when we had that misunderstanding about where you would stay after you move to Winston-Salem? I originally stated that only a short-term stay was workable. Well, I thought about it for awhile after that, and decided that it might actually be a good idea to share a household. Let me give you a run-down of the idea I had in mind.

I think you would be a good roommate, when you move to Winston. If you take this offer, you would be in for 1/3 of the expenses (since there would be 3 people here.) This comes out to about $350 a month which includes all current utilities. I would simply ask for that as a flat rate each month. You would have your own room, and Nessa and I would share a room (the bigger of the two, currently my office).

Even though we are involved with each other in an intimate way, I still think looking at this like a practical roommate arrangement is best.

Here are some reasons why I think this will be beneficial. From a compatibility standpoint we are both quiet people, have similar sleep patterns, value clean and tidy housekeeping, are frugal, don't watch TV much, and have mutual respect. This arrangement stands to help us both financially; I could pay off debt and afford online college. I'm sure you could do something special with the extra cash, whether it be saving up, investing, helping your mom, going back to school, or anything your heart desires.

Domestic tasks would also be simpler if we break it into roles we both enjoy. I could make dinner most nights, and you could take care of most of the yard work. Food expenses could be casually shared & we could benefit from buying in bulk. Cleaning house is something we already do in our current homes; I feel assured you are the type to clean up after yourself even with a woman in the house.

It's important to note that due to work, travel, and school, we would still not have a lot of time to see each other even if we lived together. I would be busy once I got home, and we might be seeing each other only at dinner.

You would have time to yourself probably every week since you get mostly weekdays off. I would still visit my family every other weekend. But, we could go on dates/"sleepovers" just as usual when Nessa is away (Wednesdays and every other weekend). Except, there would be no 2 1/2 hour drive to worry about.

The things that might pose problems are as follows. We could not probably have 3 cats here. Also, there may not be enough room for all your furnishings. These are two things we will have to work on if you take this offer.

You will also have to decide if you are prepared to live in a home with a 7-year old. Some days are fun, but some days are annoying. You would not be expected to take on a parental role. However, because Nessa admires you she will probably seek your attention sometimes. She is talkative and asks lots of questions, and wants to be included in things. Every so often she might pitch a fit over something that seems irrational and it is a very unpleasurable thing to witness. You are a good role model, and this is also a benefit to me & Nessa. But, you have to consider whether this is a benefit to you. Think about whether being a male role model is a rewarding experience to your heart, or if it doesn't really do anything for you. Remember it is normal to get disgusted by children, especially when they are not your own. Just recognize whether you are willing/able to cope with such feelings from time to time.

Anyways, I plan to get rid of some more junk if you decide to make this move. That way we won't be so crowded. I do think there is plenty of room for the three of us, as long as we stay reasonably organized and avoid excess. Neatness will be important.

If you'd like to do this, let me know. You do not have to give an immediate answer; just think about it. Please read at least twice before making a decision.

I hope you have a deliciously wonderful day!

Yours always,

Pumpkin

Answer 1

Don't do it! You should not move in with this single mother unless you are willing to marry her. There are several things you should consider: couples who live together prior to marriage are 75% more likely to split up/divorce than couples who do not live together; should you split up you are the one who suddenly has to find a new place to live; you would be giving her daughter an unhealthy view of romantic relationships (yes she would notice you guys are romantic together) and what is acceptable behavior. Your girlfriend seems more interested in what you can give her financially with the bonus of occasional sex than she is in you. She didn't want you there to begin with, now she only wants you because you can contribute financially as well as take on some unpleasant household tasks. She made it quite clear that she still wouldn't be spending any time with you. Just what kind of benefits are you getting out of this? I see none for you that you couldn't get by rooming with some guys

Answer 2

Yes, very much...

You are given an opportunity to be with someone you love... hey, what a great thing!!! Times might be a little rough, but there are times you could actually enjoy this set-up... I would suppose that all things need to be simplified... if you choose to be with them.... go with the arrangements... if you think that you can negotiate something for yourself.. go... if you suppose that the little girl is lovely... the best!!! you have an opportunity to do some things for them... they can do some things for you... what i like is the quiet time you have together on dates/ "sleepovers"... what an opportunity presented to you... She is just making things practical, but I know deep inside she just wants things clear so that when you start it you would have no false or unpronounced expectations... everything is clear... i would be more than happy to talk with her about and settle things so that all your cards are on the table and there is nothing hidden between you two... only a few sacrifice, but you are with her... that's what counts... hope you get what I mean...

hope you have fun in your decision... ;-)

Answer 3

First things first, I wouldn't reveal the contents of the letter so blatantly, if I were u. Secondly, I would move in. Doesn't sound very bad. In fact, I guess it's a good deal. U can actually move out whnever u want to. Just make sure u don't sign some agreements or stuff like that.

Answer 4

Damn boy, eeeeeeek, that what you want ???

That just sounded like way too much information. Just doesn't sound very simple, that's all.

Say yes, or not. Up to you.


PEACE & LOVE & ALL THAT

Answer 5

Yes.