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Dearest Sexy,

I have a proposition for you. I have been thinking about this for many many days now, so I am 100% sure this is something I'd personally like to do.

Remember when we had that misunderstanding about where you would stay after you move to Winston-Salem? I originally stated that only a short-term stay was workable. Well, I thought about it for awhile after that, and decided that it might actually be a good idea to share a household. Let me give you a run-down of the idea I had in mind.

I think you would be a good roommate, when you move to Winston. If you take this offer, you would be in for 1/3 of the expenses (since there would be 3 people here.) This comes out to about $350 a month which includes all current utilities. I would simply ask for that as a flat rate each month. You would have your own room, and Nessa and I would share a room (the bigger of the two, currently my office).

Even though we are involved with each other in an intimate way, I still think looking at this like a practical roommate arrangement is best.

Here are some reasons why I think this will be beneficial. From a compatibility standpoint we are both quiet people, have similar sleep patterns, value clean and tidy housekeeping, are frugal, don't watch TV much, and have mutual respect. This arrangement stands to help us both financially; I could pay off debt and afford online college. I'm sure you could do something special with the extra cash, whether it be saving up, investing, helping your mom, going back to school, or anything your heart desires.

Domestic tasks would also be simpler if we break it into roles we both enjoy. I could make dinner most nights, and you could take care of most of the yard work. Food expenses could be casually shared & we could benefit from buying in bulk. Cleaning house is something we already do in our current homes; I feel assured you are the type to clean up after yourself even with a woman in the house.

It's important to note that due to work, travel, and school, we would still not have a lot of time to see each other even if we lived together. I would be busy once I got home, and we might be seeing each other only at dinner.

You would have time to yourself probably every week since you get mostly weekdays off. I would still visit my family every other weekend. But, we could go on dates/"sleepovers" just as usual when Nessa is away (Wednesdays and every other weekend). Except, there would be no 2 1/2 hour drive to worry about.

The things that might pose problems are as follows. We could not probably have 3 cats here. Also, there may not be enough room for all your furnishings. These are two things we will have to work on if you take this offer.

You will also have to decide if you are prepared to live in a home with a 7-year old. Some days are fun, but some days are annoying. You would not be expected to take on a parental role. However, because Nessa admires you she will probably seek your attention sometimes. She is talkative and asks lots of questions, and wants to be included in things. Every so often she might pitch a fit over something that seems irrational and it is a very unpleasurable thing to witness. You are a good role model, and this is also a benefit to me & Nessa. But, you have to consider whether this is a benefit to you. Think about whether being a male role model is a rewarding experience to your heart, or if it doesn't really do anything for you. Remember it is normal to get disgusted by children, especially when they are not your own. Just recognize whether you are willing/able to cope with such feelings from time to time.

Anyways, I plan to get rid of some more junk if you decide to make this move. That way we won't be so crowded. I do think there is plenty of room for the three of us, as long as we stay reasonably organized and avoid excess. Neatness will be important.

If you'd like to do this, let me know. You do not have to give an immediate answer; just think about it. Please read at least twice before making a decision.

I hope you have a deliciously wonderful day!

Yours always,

Pumpkin

2007-02-11 22:22:55 · 8 answers · asked by beat_this_program 1 in Family & Relationships Friends

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that is a really sweet e-mail it's just i am not used to long e-mails so it took me some time to read. do you want to move in with her and her 7 year old some one you should write what comes from your heart by the sounds of it she is a very talkativ person so i don't think she wants you to say much let her do all the talking. i think it would be a great idea to move if you really like her and because she likes you and she is prepared to clean up for you i mean wow nice one tidy up for the man!

2007-02-11 22:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Pastinie 3 · 0 0

OMG, I almost fell asleep. Well, I think this offer is good but in some ways, not. And I don't think she's your girlfriend. I don't know but based from what I've read, that's not a thing to ask or say to a boyfriend. Look at this, even if you two live together, you still wouldn't have much time for each other. And she has this friend "Nessa". And what if, if ever she gets jealous to her? because as what she have said, she's talkative right? Soo.. Yeah. Think about it. It's good that you'll be able to live with her. But think about the consequences. Hope you decide a wise and good and of course, right decision. Take Care! :)

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2007-02-11 22:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by Faye ^___^ 4 · 0 0

I respect her honesty. However, the key is: "I currently have no future interest " That is how she feels. That might (and likely will, one day) change, but it might not. You didn't say your ages. If you are both 30 and you want to get married and start a family and she might be 10+ years from such a thing, you're better off breaking up now while you are still early. Don't waste each other's lives. If you are both 19 or something I wouldn't worry too much. Lots can change and it always does.

2016-05-24 00:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I only read it once (it's way too long to read twice), but I'd have to say no thanks. It sounds like she wants to have you there as a business relationship (like it's a simple way to get a renter and have them agree to all her rules, instead of getting a stranger who would not). Also, what happens if/when the relationship ends? I mean, it's not like you'd want to stay there and try to date other people.

Unless you are thinking about actually make this a permanent relationship (marriage?) I'd have to say it sounds too controlling and business-like and it doesn't sound like a good idea. She's making all the rules for the house, even telling you that you can't bring your stuff and can't have pets and what your "jobs" will be around the house, and she's still trying to put a nice "fun" spin on it. ....and don't forget, neatness will be important!

Are you sure she's your girlfriend? I wouldn't get that from reading this letter.....

2007-02-11 22:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Dear Pumpkin,

Thank you for the "roommate" offer. This arrangement really sounds wonderful for you and Nessa. Just think, you'd get money to help pay for rent, someone to do the yard work that you don't like to do, sex when you want it and to boot, a father figure for your dearest daughter! How lovely a life you have set out for yourselves and me too! Geeze, I can't wait to hop into this arrangement...NOT!

Sorry honey, now that I know your real feelings for me, this is the end as we now know it. I wish you luck in finding your perfect roommate and a father figure for your daughter. Give him my best.

Thank you for being so honest dear. You've opened my eyes and now I know what NOT to look for in a girl of my dreams.

Sincerely,

Sexy and FREE!!!

2007-02-11 22:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

She seems to have all the rules figured out..and looks to me like..if you end up moving..she'll use you..and boss you around.
What kind of relationship is that..?
Maybe you should keep being her boyfriend..but find your own place...
Dont rush things..especially if she just wants this because it is a benifit for her and her daughter..she didnt really think about you at all..it was all about her.

Only you can make a decision..so becareful..think your decision through alot of times..and YOU make up your own list of pros n cons of moving in with her.
Dont follow the list of pros n cons she gave you..cause they all sound like its the right idea for you to move in with her.
Make your own list and go from there..and just like she told you what she expected from you..when you email her back..tell her what YOU expect from her.
see how she likes that.
Whatever you decide ..goodluck

2007-02-11 23:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You receive an open, honest offer like this one and you have to post it and ask strangers to read and comment? What kind of jerk are you?

She's given you an excellent offer. You decide where you want to go with it.

2007-02-11 22:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 6 · 0 1

dearest gold digger "No THANKS"

2007-02-11 22:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by booge 6 · 0 0

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