My husband left me today. There were no tears. He had made up his mind and I already miss him. I think he is struggling with other things and the only outlet is me. I want him to come home. What can I do. Should I leave him alone or ring him. I have sent him a message already.
2007-02-11 21:51:24 · 13 answers · asked by karena k 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think its better to leave him alone ... if he has made his mind up the last he wants now is someone begging for him to come back ... also its a very bad view in his eyes
wait and see how things will come
i am sure it will be very hard for u but there is nothing u can do right now
all the best x
2007-02-11 21:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 14:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left you, It is all on him. He needs time to think. Well so do you!
You need to plan your life without him! Do not let him think he has all the answers. That he can just come, and go as he likes! Sounds like there is someone else! You need to live for you now! He is a big boy! Do not let yourself be a door mat! If he calls, tell him you will meet him somewhere, a restaurant or somewhere out in the open. Only meet him to talk! Do not let him use you for a yo-yo! (on again-off again)! He may or may not come back! You have to ask yourself, do you want him back? And at what price?
2007-02-11 22:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lilac_lady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone for now and give him the time and space that he needs for a while. You take this time to clear your mind and think too and give yourself some space. Just be friends with him for now and dont push or pester him to come home. Let time heal things and work on your marriage over time with marriage counseling and help as well. I also feel you will need counseling just for you.
2007-02-11 22:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are there children involved? if so, you can not feed into this behavior. life is hard but the feeling of being abandoned is awful for you and kids. give him some time. after all, he is leaving to think. if he calls or wants to come home you must set some ground rules...to prevent him from making this a hurtful habit. i have been in your shoes...and i always feared he'd leave if i said something...we didn't work out. good luck
2007-02-11 22:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I´m sorry to hear that. But right now the perfect thing for me would be for her to call me and tell me she wants me back and that she was wrong too. I never have been with a woman who would go so far as to call him and beg for him back, but as a guy I can say that that would´ve helped in many different situations.
2007-02-11 22:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by nassim420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this :(
To be honest, you are probably better off if this is the kind of stunt he would pull. You do not deserve to be treated with so little regard. You deserve someone better, who will live up to his responsibilities, and honor you and your marriage.
Leave him be for now, and see where it takes you. Sweetie, if he does this once, he can do it again. Is this really how you want to live your life?
2007-02-12 04:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by buffywaldie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeeze, i'm so sorry. my dad left us 3 years ago and me and my brothers were just so angry and upset that we never wanted him to come back. but i believe every situation is totally different, i think you should maybe leave him for a bit and figure out some things. maybe ask yourself, do you really want him back?
2007-02-11 22:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont think whether he needs u or not, just ask urself if u still need him.... If u do, dont hesitate and get in touch with him...
Its hard for guys to speak out their problems but be paitent and ask him...after lots of efforts, im sure he will speak out to ur surprise...
2007-02-11 22:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by frnd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the love is still there, he will come back..
Let him know that your door is always open
for him .
Be gentle, or else you won't make him change
his mind
Best of the best for you
2007-02-11 22:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by JUSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋