i am 25 and egyption .all people here tell me that i am getting old and i have to consider marriage.but i dont wanna. i want to llove someone and then marry him.i hate arranged marriages.but iwas in love with someone and we got engaged and he broke my heart and i was hurt for almost a year and still suffering till now....the thing is i never learnt my lesson.it's like i want someone exactly as my x.i dnt love my x any more but still i miss the happiness .....i am so depressed i cant feel happy anymore even at my sister's wedding or with my friends am afraid i'll grow old and never find someone and be totally alone.
2007-02-11 21:48:15 · 8 answers · asked by lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to go out on some dates. Keep it simple and just go out for lunch or dinner with someone. Get to know someone new, and see how it goes. Don't expect to fall in love right away, and don't go thinking that you have to do anything. But if the time is right, and you like the new guy, give him a chance.
You're right to say that you shouldn't just get married because you have to, or because other people tell you to. You should marry only for love.
As for being depressed about it - it is natural that you would feel depressed at your sister's wedding. Valentine's Day or any major holiday is also tough, because you look around and you see all these other people together and happy. But get over that, because it does nothing for you. It just makes you sadder and sadder the more you think about it. Right now, single, you have the ability to explore and really look for the right guy. So take your time and do that and when you find him, it won't matter how old you are. Good luck to you.
2007-02-11 21:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by thebobcatreturns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 is not considered too old to marry in the United States, and I daresay in many other countries. Unless your family is so traditional that they refuse to send you to college, why not just tell them you want to concentrate on your career, and hopefully marry someone in the same field of work so you can work together. Even if that does not happen in the long run, at least it will function as a plausible excuse for you to take your time.
But don't take more that five or six years if you want to have children. The older you get, the older your eggs get. They were born with you, but you only ripen one a month (sometimes two). So by the time you hit 35, there's a statistically noticeable increase in birth defects. It's not something to worry about ten years in advance, but just to remember that the limit is there.
Frankly, I never did see the point to arranged marriages if the girl did not at least have veto power. That is, parents may suggest and even offer bribes for you to marry a particular man. But if you don't love him, and can't imagine learning to love him, it seems your parents are just asking for you to be unhappy if they insist you marry him.
But don't worry about finding someone. Let them find you. Just be pleasant and quiet, a gentle presence that intrigues for being subtle. The men will notice, believe me; the right sort, anyway.
2007-02-11 22:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As per my understanding for love is. to be with you whole life. That was not love from his side. May be u love him a lot but he didn't otherwise he don't dare to do this. B'cos the real love is not easily get breaked. Now u just forget him and start ur new life with good guy. May be u got right person through arrange marriage also.. May be the person who'll come to see you is your prince charming. And make you realise what is real love.
2007-02-11 22:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by rajnii r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U hate arranged marriage and ur intended love marriage did not come thru. What r the options?
2007-02-11 23:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it feels like he basically desires to be pals and would not see you like that. this would replace ultimately via the years yet then you definately will possibly no longer choose to wreck a friendship if something is going incorrect mutually as you 2 are relationship. you will desire to think of roughly what you go with and what you will income from the main.
2016-11-03 05:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find other things that make you happy, little things. focus on them and forget about relationships for a while. then you'll heal and can get back on the horse.
2007-02-11 21:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Chasey Lane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up Cinderella.Your still young,,you will find your guy in time,,accually,,he will probably find you.Dont worry about it.Besides,,being single is not so bad ;O).
2007-02-11 21:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, prolly not.
2007-02-11 22:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by TEXASMALE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋