a few days ago she has been trying to make this an issue with my husband... just because I am 27 and pregnant with my 2nd child...she say's she won't dress more conservative around me and my husband. She tells me if I am this insecure I should get my breast done. She keeps suggesting my husband is interested in her which is disgusting and iimpossible...just because I think anyone will stare at her in a negative way. She says I am keeping my husband away from her...and packing on the pounds. I feel mixed becuase I want my kids to know her but her screwed up way of thinking is making me miserable. Help!
2007-02-11 21:36:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh dear, sounds like a mid life crisis. Sonds like she is worried about becoming older and is doing this to make herself feel better, and in the process is making you feel horrible.
If she won't l isten to you about the way she dresses then thats her fault if people look at her in a negative way.
What I do find quite disturbing and totally out of order is her suggestion that your husband is interested in her in that way. This is totally disgusting and not something a mother should be doing to her daughter. She should be encouraging and supporting you. Not putting you down and trying to make you feel insecure.
Try to speak to her about it although you prob already have. But make sure she knows that you are not insecure that you are just worried what other paople may say about her. Make a point of showing her that you and your husband are completely happy together and that you are happy with yourself.
If she carries on, tell her what you really think of her ways and don't hold back! I know it sounds horrible but it may just shock her into thinking and realising how badly she is treating you. And tell her you don't think she is a good role model for your children and you would like them to look up to her some day but the way things are now, her suggesting things like that about your husband is not good for them to see. And is effecting you and therefore effecting you children!
2007-02-11 21:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need the stress of her antics? You can back her off for a while and let her vent some of that steam she has built up. Eventually she will either get married, get fat, or hit menopause and be normal again! In her 40's, she will be OK soon.
You have a family to take care of and someone stressing your marriage is not something you need right now. Just kindly ask her to give you some space cause it is causing you too much stress right now. That might be enough to shock her into behaving, but this is YOUR family, YOUR home, YOUR marriage, and she needs to respect that, or she needs to stay out.
2007-02-12 05:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Batty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its embarrasing, but if that is what makes her happy then you should not be so embarrased. However, what annoyes more is her insinuation towards your husband and the impression she gives of competing with you for your husband. Disgusting!
I think you should try to see less and less of her at your house. If she wants to act as a child or teenage, fine, but not on your expense or the expense of your family.
You should not allow her to make your life miserable and your husband must act to assist.
All the best!
2007-02-12 06:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would advice u to be away from her, so that u dont be tense during ur pregnancy, also i would suggest keep ur children also far from her, as they might start hating her instead of loving her, which is bad and may also learn her habits..
2007-02-12 06:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Richa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to be around your kids, then she needs to dress more conservatively. that's what you need to tell her. you don't need to get breast implants because she tells you to. if she is driving you crazy and stressing you out, stay awayfrom her, and tell her why you are. stress is not healthy for a pregnant woman, and your mom needs to be aware of how selfish and foolish she is. do you want your children to copy her behavior? if she wants to be a part of their lives, she nees to change, and you need to be firm in your decision.
2007-02-12 05:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmmm... your mum can do what she likes, she is after all an adult, if you are feeling insecure around her then you need to address these issues with yourself!
2007-02-12 05:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by merrpet 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
eww u dont need that fat betch in ur life! ur moms a ho! ur moms just a horney old lady who is fu cking wacked out!
2007-02-12 05:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by melnumbr2@sbcglobal.net 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋