what can i do
2007-02-11 21:12:14 · 8 answers · asked by paul e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you shuold talk to your wife and tell her how you feel i know it is hard for a man to express feelings but if she doesn't know how can she ever help you? sounds like you are feeling a little depressed and maybe you should look into therapy. it could help a lot!
good luck
2007-02-11 21:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with your wife about how you feel. Don't use an accusing words that will make her feel it's her fault. Just be straight-up and honest. Perhaps see a marrage counselor is communication is not your marriages strong point.
Set a day or evening of the week that you consistently do something as a family. Be it a game, a walk, planning what to do in an emergency, etc. Make sure to do different things, targeting specifics things you, your wife, and kids like to do.
Perform service for someone or a group of people as a family. You'd be surprised at how much that helps a family grow closer.
If you're religious, daily family prayer and scripture reading is great.
If your kids are still young, pick a novel to read a chapter to them each night. I do this with my kids and the LOVE it, and it makes me feel really close to them. And the novels help expand their horizons and discover new things that they don't see in their everyday life.
I also recommend the below website. While you may not be religious, they have a lot of great ideas for strengthening families.
2007-02-11 21:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry .This is a phase which almost everybody passes through. If it occurs too frequently ,can try following:
a) Devlop a habit ,try to get indulge in it whenever you feel lonely
b) Devlop a socail circle, spend time with in it.
c) If u r an introvert type of person, develop some reading /surfingindulgence.
d) Can have a break for few days ,go alone somewhere for few days.
e) There are few groups which have good self-introspection sessions, these are helpful if done once in a while.
Cheers
2007-02-11 22:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by ramesh c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner feels the same way.
He has a lot of financial pressure, that I am currently unable to help with, so he gets very stressed & he yells & moans a lot!!!
He resents our child because after she was born, that took my attention away from him.
(He doesn't get my pity on that one! Cos I have to deal with her 1st & she's quite a struggle as she's hyper).
Our sex life is a major zilch cos, quite honestly, he doesn't even try to turn me on... & he refuses to accept my advice about that.
So yeh, me & the little one, do, I am ashamed to admit, tend to blank him quite a lot, when perhaps we shouldn't, but we do that cos he's often aggressive & deliberately antagonistic.
I'm not saying you are like my partner- only that I am trying to understand & symnpathise with how you must feel.
To get closer to your partner & kids, I think you need to see things more from their level i.e. that you are the grown-up, the boss, & that they take their lead from you
so...
to effect better relationships, you need to get their respect back for you. Don't play the heavy patriarch! Do the opposite!
Be more affectionate!!!
Be more approachable. Don't jump down their throat if they want your help, involvement, time, attention! Try to encourage them towards more FUN things, to de-stress... & tell your partner she is the best thing that has ever happened to you & that you love her & the kids so deeply, but that you do also need some outside interests...
Yeh, muck in, help with chores, do what you can, then it is time for YOU to do what YOU want to do, to chill out, to relax, to take your mind off family problems...
& don't let her feel guilty about YOU wanting to do that!
You have earned that right by being a good dad.
So enjoy yourself, with a clear conscience.
Go out & Meet New Friends!
Then you'll feel refreshed & you'll then be better able to cope.
OK?
(Just DON'T come home drunk & expect her to like you!)
2007-02-11 22:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some you things. Dont feel guilty about spending time on yourself. Tell your wife you are struggling and go do something alone.
2007-02-11 21:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must communicate this to your wife, you never know she way me feeling the same. may by the two of you can rekindle that old feeling by giving the kids to grandma for a weekend and going out and spending time for yourself. you may try a marriage counselor that could help.
2007-02-11 21:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mary w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife needs to give you more attention
2007-02-11 21:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
call up your beer buddies
2007-02-12 21:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋