men to be a father or not a father?

Question

guys- I hearing things on this site like women dont give men rights over their babies or no father rights. women dont consider men opinion or for the okay if a woman wants an abortion or wants to put a baby up for an adoption so here we go If you have sex with a woman (youre not married not really together one-night stand or maybe if you are married) and a women comes to you say she pregnant by you and says she's considering abortion or adoption would you consider giving your opinion about her decision and possibly try to change her mind to keeping the baby or you ( maybe you can consider raising the baby) or do you not want any part in her descision meaning whatever decision the girl/woman makes is whatever, you dont care you dont want any part of it?

Answer 1

It's not surprising you haven's gotten any answers. You have not only asked a question about one of the most sensitive areas of modern life, you have done so relatively inarticulately. Still, the question does need to be discussed. Maybe if you didn't put quite so much into a single question, you'd get a better answer.

But you are quite right that this is a difficult issue. The so-called women's movement [those who are arrogant enough to claim they speak for all women, not just those who agree with them] has created quite a distortion in intimate relations. There was a time when men accepted the fact that they were sometimes confronted with bastards to support. Sometimes they visited the child, or put the child in a good school, or whatever. Sometimes they did not. But economic necessity usually meant that the mother would tell a man she was carrying his child, because she needed help from him.

Roe versus Wade didn't really change what had already been happening, but it did change the proportion of conflicts over whether or not the child would be carried to term. That was, after all, a question long before Roe v. Wade. The difference was the abortionist would have been illegal. That made it more expensive and more dangerous, but no less an option, really. Even small towns had a doctor or nurse practitioner who was willing to provide the service; or a mid-wife or conjure woman.

The question is, how much responsibility really is placed on the father of a child conceived by accident under relatively casual circumstances? And how much responsibility on the part of the mother to notify the father? After all, today there's less disgrace in being uncertain which of two or more men might be the father. If she wants to know, she can get DNA tests. But what if she does not want to know?

What can you do if the lady is not even prepared to tell you she is pregnant? It is, after all, her body.

The most I could say is that it is truly regrettable that people have such casual relations as to create these awkward situations.