Does anyone have words of encourgement or tips on how to deal with and get over a break up? I'm dying here, please help..
2007-02-11 20:57:53 · 28 answers · asked by sexybabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God loves you and can help you through this. You may also need help and counseling to help you get through the pain and hard time you are facing right now. I understand that you are feeling down and upset and dont see past this right now. I am here if you need someone to talk to as well.
2007-02-11 22:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt like dying to..for a couple of weeks. I am okay now. It gets easier. Once you cut the person from your life as much as possible (little harder when you have a child together) that helps immensely. It killed me to know he was seeing someone so now I do not want to know anything about his life. Only what concerns my daughter. The way I got through it is just accepting the feelings. So I feel like im dying for a while..that sucks was what I went through. I also got motivated and busy. Keeping busy helps alot, spending time with friends, dress up pretty in a new outfit and go out with the girls and flirt a bit that will boost the ego and make the situation seem less hopeless. Remember all the bad things about the man and why you broke up. There are so many men out there, and though you may not find that spark its there if you are open to it. What works for me is knowing that there are plenty of fish in the sea and logically its best for us to be apart and not together. That helps alot too.
2007-02-12 11:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dying is not the solution to your problem. If you died, how would he feel? Probably he's "happy" or "guilty", depending on how serious your relationship was. Do you think it is worth dying over a boyfriend? Definitely not!!! Your life is worth much more than that. Move on. Go out with your friends and have a good time. Do not think of him. He is not worth your time, respect and most important ....LOVE!! Take up a new hobby, go shopping and get a new haircut, manicure, pedicure, join a gym...anything to keep you busy and looking great later. Live your life to the fullest and show him his "loss". Who knows, probably he'll be "crying" his eyes out when he sees the new you. Time heals...sweetie....
2007-02-12 05:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the world seems so bleak to you at this point...but don't loose hope...what you need to do now is focus on the things that you enjoy maybe even take a vacation to get your mind off the break up, go out with your friends and get a drink...go to the movies. I know it will not be easy just take it one day at a time and before you know it you will be over the breakup and focused on other things
2007-02-13 04:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First so of nobody is worth dying over. Its just another chapter in your life. I know it hurts especially if you cared deeply about this person, but you must move on. Get yourself together. Do things to make you feel good. Feel good, look good get yourself living again. You will find the right person. Don't let this drag you down. Occupy yourself with friends, family, workout do whatever but your life is not over because of one guy. Be strong and move on!
2007-02-12 09:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids, concentrate on them.
Find a hobby or an engrossing book to take up your spare time.
Make dinner/lunch dates with close friends or family that'll be willing lend a shoulder for you to unload on.
Above all, do not let yourself dwell on what can not be changed. Move forward. When you find yourself feeling low because you're dwelling on the past, find something to occupy your mind, even if it's something as simple as housework.
If it gets to the point where you feel you can no longer deal with the pain, seek professional counseling. They can often give you exercises to help move forward, or in worst case scenarios they can give you anti-depressants until you're far enough removed from the situation that you can deal with it without the drugs.
2007-02-12 05:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
make yourself a break-up kit. icecream, a spoon, ciggies (if you smoke), tissues, a warm blanket, and a place to cry alone. start spoiling YOURSELF. take warm bathes with those balls of oil that dissolve in the water. listen to some sad music and have candles and mainly cry, cry, cry. until you get it out of your system. no matter how long it takes sooner or later, you will get sick of being sad, and listening to the sad music, etc...and when you are there go out with your friends. and don´t even look for something new yet. go at your own pace on that one. this just basically ensures that you will be ready if something new does come up. good luck. Love and Respect. Peace
2007-02-12 05:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by nassim420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Half the world goes through what you're going through and somehow, we survive. It's hard having to deal with rejection and pain. It might help if you got a bit angry and being treated so badly. The love of your life obviously wasn't the person you thought, otherwise they wouldn't have treated you so.
One day I heard a song on the radio and it snapped me out of my sorrow - it was Gloria Gaynor's I will survive!
And it suddenly struck me - no more lies, no more deceiving, no more crawling. I've never looked back.
So get your dignity, your self respect back and allow time to do the rest. Good luck.
2007-02-12 05:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's corny... but time really does heal. In the mean time, do things that make you feel good - even if you have to force youself to do them. Make sure you keep your friends close and don't be afraid to cry on them.
The most important thing is to move on... don't sit and mope. Find a new person to go out with.
2007-02-12 16:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tim B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on tight, it's just a ghost bump,
you'll get out of this a winner, a stronger
person inside. Been there, I felt the same
way as you. I was carrying my son's pain
as well as mine. I felt the earth was trembling.
I felt I was crushed and my bones were in pieces.
I actually yelled out and and said,, please if there
are more to come, bring them all down in one go
and finish it,, it's just unbearable.
See when you get to the top, that's about it..
You're on the top..SO HOLD ON TIGHT sweetie.
You'll make it. Believe in yourself, believe in your
ability. Believe in the impossible..
Then things will work out for you. just believe.
Stand up and be firm . .Be brave.
2007-02-12 07:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by JUSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋