My husband is going through a depression that I feel as a wife I can not handle any more. Problem is he has refused cancelling and at the same time he does not want to do anything with us as a family. He now keeps telling me his life is over and wants to even give up his job. He does not say what exactly is the problem and there is no communcation anymore.
I am afraid for what he could do to himself or to us as a family.
However he insists I should not tell anyone but day by day the situation is getting worse.
He had never drunk all the while I knew him and now he has even started drinking.
I am ovewhelmed by a heavy heart but also feel overburdened. Should I at least talk to his brother, I cant find any one else since he has no friends or should i wiat for what comes by?
2007-02-11 20:55:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes talk to someone he needs some help no matter if he wants it or not you cannot deal with this on your own talk to his brother and then have him help you make a plan people do not just snap out of a deep depression they need help be in therapy or medication he can not get through this on his own and neither can you. good luck
2007-02-11 21:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a doctors appointment and take him to it and have them check him for depression. He may need medical attention and possibly even medication for it as well. Tell him his life is not over and that you love him and are gonna be there for him by his side through it all and that you love him very much. Make a counseling appointment for him and go with him to it. Talk to his brother yes BUT i really do not see how this will change anything for you right now. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email Dr Phil from there and tell him your story and see what he can do to help you with this.
2007-02-12 06:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his brother, his doctor, your community mental health organisations, just anyone who can help him. It doesn't matter if he said "oh don't tell anyone!" If he had cancer, would you just let him up and die because it was a secret? Mental health issues are no different. If he's a danger to himself or others, you can get him put in a hosptial for awhile to begind treatment. Good luck!
2007-02-12 05:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he get on well with his brother? If not, this may complicate matters even more. I suggest that you see a professional counsellor - one that both of you are comfortable with. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 05:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tom Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he close to his brother? If so, by all means, please talk to the brother and ask him to talk to your husband. What about the pastor? Try telling your husband that what he is doing is breaking your heart....and it's not just his problem alone. Good luck to you
2007-02-12 05:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to help yourself, even if he doesn't want help. The best thing that you could do is to get him to go to a AA meeting.
2007-02-12 05:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should take someone's help - since u dont know anybody else, may be u should speak to his brother.
ur husband needs help and dont neglect him now. give him courage and copnfidence and help him get his and your life back on track.
2007-02-12 05:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if what you are saying is can you talk to his brother about his problems, yes, if not then no/
2007-02-12 05:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋