I've been with my husband for nearly twelve years. throughout the relationship he has cheated again and again. in the begining I was very emotionally connected and somewhat co-dependent yet as years pass and I mature I've become one bitter woman. my nature makes me confront and defend but I'm unable to stay angry. I seem to just get over it. He has definately changed from in the beginning so much that I am very torn over what may or may not be going on. I check his phone records every month and for the most part it seems they're clean. He is accounted for 95% of the month. But once a month, he is GOING to disappear for hours. He doesn't give me a heads up about it and will not answer his phone. However, he comes home and usually I can partly comfirm his whereabouts due to friends seeing him in our small hometown. I have always been very crafty with finding the truth but I feel he has learned from mistakes. Now I am ready to make a move if only I discover an affair. ANY BRILLIANT IDEAS
2007-02-11 20:46:18 · 14 answers · asked by bellsgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust your instincts first and foremost. IF you feel something is not right then more then likely its not. For when he is not accounted for throw a spoke into his bikewheel..when you know hes heading out for a couple hours unaccounted for follow him. Get someone else to follow him..get a friend to be a decoy. Get a friend to hit on him and see if he takes the bait..if he does then y ouve got this cheater on your hands. Sounds to me like hes got someone there and hes going to their home and sleeping with them. Get the actual phone records because hes probably erasing his history because he knows with your spying skills that would be a dead give away. Id suggest following him getting a decoy or else observe very closely his interactions with others and if one seems a bit off then you know who hes likely messing with. I am more then willing to say this loser husband of yours is cheating and id probably leave even with out the evidence of yet another affair.
2007-02-12 03:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIre a Private investigator or get a friend to help you with this or take him on the Maury show and have him take a lie detector test or Maury will even set him up with a decoy to really see if he is being faithful to you or not and it will be caught on video tape. If I were you and i could not trust my husband after all this time i would get out and leave him and file for divorce since he is commiting so much adultery on you.
2007-02-11 22:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..your first mistake is staying with the bastard. Secondly. you could (if you have the money) higher a private eye to tale him and video tape his actions. But from what you told me here. You know what he's doing. That wouldn't make you leave him anyways. So your just stuck.
2007-02-11 20:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? weird. Why are you willing it? If the guy is accounted for, by YOU and friends etc why are you tapping your foot and waiting for it to happen? If you have already made up your mind then leave him. It sounds as if thats what you are waiting for. People treat you bad if you let them.
2007-02-11 20:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its at home try 1 of those nany cams or spy cams. If not at home and u really think he is cheating then call that tv show cheaters or hire a dective to follow him.
2007-02-11 20:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by jimmykicksasses81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all make sure that he is actually cheating on u and its not ur idle brain making up all these theories about him disappearing once a month.
second, stop being suspicious. once u decide he is cheating on u, just get out of that relationship. dont take it easily. incase u r just hallucinating all this up, then start trusting ur man - go to a dr and speak ur mind out. they'll help u stop being suspicious incase u r.
2007-02-11 20:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
seeing that he has a history of cheating he assumes you will take him back overeating , and why would you want to live in suspicion
you deserve better
I would hire a PI
but seriously you catch him then what???
2007-02-12 01:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated in the past and your still there y do u want to catch again. listen if you still love the guy just remember you cant miss what you cant measure.
2007-02-11 22:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by igiveup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes hire a Private investigator... to get some snaps of him, that or give him a GPS locator necklace or something... just so u cna keep ur tabs on him... :)
2007-02-11 20:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r lucky. U have a horse out of a pony. Stop worrying about him now.
2007-02-11 21:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋