relationship question???

Question

I don´t know if I love her like I used to. She certainly isn´t the same woman that I fell in love with. We got in a huge fight yesterday, actually the past month we´ve got into a bunch of fights and they are taking their toll on my sleep, my health, and my happiness. I told her last night (after apologizing for what I did) that I can´t live being afraid of making her angry and being worried whether we will be together or not. That I can´t be the guy who apologizes and waits patiently for her to forgive me (although i am hurting so much from what she told me). I do NOT leave her to go get drunk. It´s just i married her knowing that it would never again be that lovey dovey relationship where it is new. Where we can´t stop hugging and kissing no matter where we are. And i have never gotten makeup sex. I´ve gotten make up, do all the chores, and wait till wednesday, i´m tired so I tell you now that I just want to lie down and you do the work sex, plenty of times. I love her. Help

I don´t have a job right now, but I manage to contribute about 100 or more euros a week, and of course its not enough. But I know very well who her mother is (the evil entity that cried when we told her we were going to get married) and I feel that if she is taking me for granted now, then it is only going to get worse. Btw, my mother-in-law asked me to not get a job to help take care of her dying husband b4 he died. And I am NOT throwing anything in anybodies face, but she never ever even thanked me. I really hate this woman, and if my wife starts to act like her, trust me, there won´t even be any questions to ask on here. I love my wife with all my heart. And the fights are taking a toll on her as well, but I need a way to get my point across without a fight. I love her and want to be with her. But right now, I am listening to usher ´burn´ over and over and I can´t stop crying. Help

Answer 1

Sounds to me that it's time for a bit of marriage counseling.

Answer 2

You can work this out between you. It's normal for every couple to have fights but the key is how you fight and how you end the fight. You have to learn to stop before anybody gets too angry and sit together to talk things out. Then once you've resolved the issue there should be no more talking about it. Put it in the past, don't mention it again and carry on. You can have a huggy, kissy relationship for a long, long time together. It's about how you talk to each other and treat each other on a daily basis. My wife and I still have that after almost 6 yrs together. It took us a while to learn how to argue without being hurtful to one another, but we did and now things are great. Marriage takes work and compromise on both peoples part. Don't give up....get to working on your marriage together.

Answer 3

sounds like me. my boyfriend broke up with me this past week. im a whole different person than i was when we had got together. but we also had a baby and i didnt think parents should do certian things and i was pushy and trying to change him too not so much change but tame ether way it goes i learn (i knew) it was wrong and now im alone and going crazy because i love him and cant get over him that easy. i wanted it to stay "new" but things just dont work like that. when you marry somebody its for better or worse she has changed but you did too. nobody stays the same as a person gets older they learn new things about life and gain new perspectives so rather you know it or not you changed too. now im not saying she's right and your wrong there is no right or wrong. its about what you and her can do to make things better. maybe go on a short vacation by yourself or send her on one (or both go somewhere but not together) give each other sometime apart so you can miss each other. it really is true you dont know what you have untill its gone.

Answer 4

Sounds like you guys need marriage and or relationshoip counseling here. You need to learn how to better communicate with each other and not to fight so much. You really should go out and get emplyoment to help out more as well. Since you love her so very much then you need to do what you can do to try and work on and save this marriage if at all possible.

Answer 5

you can't spend your life walking on egg shells. you need to get a little communication going let her know that you still love her very much but you can't live like this. as for the new thing try and spice it up a little bit every relationship has it's ups and downs sexually. try something new ask her if there is anything she would like to try. maybe you should seek couples therapy but it is a two way street if there isn't anything she wants to do to help save the realtionship there is nothing you can do.
ps I have never gotten make up sex either, whats the deal lol

Answer 6

It sounds like you are making all the effort to keep your relationship going and she is being a big baby. you need to tell her that she needs to appreciate you more and remember why she fell in love with you. If she isn't going to try to make you happy then you need counseling or something to make a big change.

Answer 7

Get a Job that will make you feel better. Talk to her about your concerns so that she knows and can do something about it. You shouldn't feel like your walking on egg shells all the time, just bite the bullet and speak to her. Your life is what you make it.

Answer 8

You seem to have done what you could... Now only good counselor can help you... Suggesting the help of counselor because you have still written that you love her... I wish you get rid of it soon...

Answer 9

Hit her in the face with a frying pan and then go call some hookers and have a party.