marrying another generation?

Question

will a marriage will successful if the age gap between the two is 12 years? and if the two people are like minded and enjoy each others company..

Answer 1

Once you get into your late 20's and beyond, a 12 year gap isn't that significant. But when you get down to it, what's important is that the two people have similar interests and can relate to each other about most things. Once you get past college age and into carriers and raising a family, I don't think your personality changes much. After that point the collection of life experiences that shape us are not going to be that different between two people even if they are 10+ years apart in age. It's the idea of someone in their teens being with someone in their mid 20's that I have a difficult time with because there is so much happening in that time period. And going younger, it's the same thing between a 14 year-old and a 17 year-old.

Answer 2

Twelve years is not too much in either direction. It's pretty close to hitting the limit for a relationship where the woman is the older, but there's no real limit on the gap when the man is the older.

Sorry; this is not just tradition. This is biology. Men and women age differently.

I was 11 years older than My Steve. The reason I say "was" is that he committed suicide just over a year ago. One big reason was that he never did have any children, and the older he got, the less likely it was that he ever would. We divorced, even though we were still very much in love, because he hoped to be able to find a woman enough younger than me (and, as time went on, than himself) to be able to bear his children. But he always said she would have to respect me, and his loving relationship with me.

It was too big a hurdle for the young women to jump, especially since most women who love older men just assume they will have significant resources, and money will not be a struggle. Steve never made any real money (only what he inherited), and that was the real limit.

So love an older person if that's the way it works out, but recognize that you are making some compromises with regard to Mother Nature if the woman is the older of the two.

Answer 3

If you both are adults and at least 18 years of age or older and if both of you love each other unconditionally and are marrying for the right reasons then yes you should have a successful marriage.

Answer 4

As you have said that you are like minded and enjoy each others company then dont worry about age...

Answer 5

It depends on your current ages. The older you are, the less 12 years means. But if you are under 25 and he's closing on 40, I would ask myself, why doesn't he date women his own age? Is it because there is something about him that they won't put up with? If there is, will you put up with it as you mature? Many young girls get caught up in the idea of dating an older man because of his 'security' and with their rosed colored glasses, miss or ignore a lot of things going on. Have you ever listed to Dr. Laura? She gives some great advice on this subject.

Be honest with yourself when asking these questions, and most likely you will find the correct answer within.

Answer 6

I think it's okay normally I wouldn't go above 10 years but if you truly love someone what's 12 years difference, you can't help who you fall in love with!! I always go by what Aaliyah said "Age ain't nuttin' but a number"

Answer 7

My husband is 9 years older than I am. Most of the time I forget about the difference. Compatibility is much more important.

Answer 8

Can be very successful. It is not age, it is the compatibility that matters in a marriage.

Answer 9

My grandmother was 11 years older than my grandfather and I have never known a happier couple. I don't think one extra year will make any difference.

Answer 10

Yes.