we have been married for 3 months only,we haven't had pre-marital sex also both of us were virgins.
my husbands sex drive is very low,we do it only when he feels his ***** is very loaded and he needs to get the extra sperms out....he doesn't do it because he wants me or he enjoys being with me.
i talked to him many times i told him you need to see a doctor this is not the behaviour of a newly weds,but he ignored.
i used to touch himbut he always embarresed me so i stopped.
i don't wear lingerie anymore or wax because he just doesnot care or interested in any of this.
i can't take it anymore,i feel so depressedand i cry alot.
i have been preparing for valentines day but now i donot want to do any thing.
i know that was long but i really donot know what is happening
what do i do???????????
2007-02-11 19:55:24 · 9 answers · asked by solly 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
he is not having an affair or any thing because he cuddles, hug and even kiss alot but no sex
2007-02-11 20:04:52 · update #1
First, you have to think if you realy love your husband. Second you have to ask to you husband if he loves you.Thirth, you have to tell him that you are not satisfy with him but you want to resolve this problem, you realy want to help him, to upgrade yours relationship. You have to ask him more if he likes to make love with you or with another person.You have to find his excitings. Not at last but first of all, you have to pray that God to help you in this. I asure you that He is powerful. He always wants to help you. He can make it. Just make it and you shall not be sorrow. He will give more athers ideas. God bless you more and more!
2007-02-11 20:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, your marriage is in trouble. And both you and your husband need some serious marriage counselling. Or else, it won't be long before the two of you will start talking about divorce.
Not everyone has the same amount of sexual desire. And it's normal to have differences between individuals. But marriage is an exlusively monogamous relationship where both partners are supposed to be faithful to each other. And this means that both partners have a duty to satisfy each other sexually within reasonable limits.
The promise of faithfulness comes with the understanding that both partners will do their best to love and satisfy each other. And if one partner doesn't even try to satisfy the other, then this promise and the whole marriage becomes a fraud and a sham.
When one partner has less sexual desire than the other, then the best and the most fair compromise would be to have unequal kind of sex where one partner gets more sexual stimulation and orgasms more often than the other.
If he doesn't want any sexual pleasure for himself, then pleasing his wife with his tongue and perhaps giving her a good hand-massage that makes her orgasm is not not too much to ask for.
It doesn't take much effort for a guy to please his wife like this. And if he won't go out of his way to do it. The he is being selfish. And he is breaking his promise to love his wife.
I don't think your husband needs a doctor. This is not a medical problem. The problem is that he is ignorant and selfish. And he needs some marriage counselling.
2007-02-11 20:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a critical one though. But still resolvable. AFter all remember sex is not the ultimate thing in one's life. But still it plays a vital role in bringing a couple in together as close as possible.
COUNSELING should help! Besides, I would advice you to find his spot. Might be he is really worried of something else. You start appreicating/praising his parts. If you are not!, learn to s$ck. This is one of the most best thing which will really arouse even a person with sexual dysfunction. If you do this s$cking work for 10 mins, I am sure he will start with you. As someone suggested above, do not neglect lingerie. Wear as less as possible and expose your beauty. Men love something rather than nothing. Further, make sure you have some hair over your pubic region. That is one of the most imp one for men to love women's pu$$y. Try to do some l*c*ing work in his nipples. the major part is to work from your end. FOREPLAY FOREPLAY. If all these doesnt work better to take him for a counseling. All the best! Do let know if there are any improvements.
2007-02-11 23:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Irismar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not as simple as it sounds I mean I wish I could say it is an easy answer like he takes a pill or he goes to a doctor. The answer is he has to want to do these things you cannot control him so there is nothing you can do. He may be depressed about something his body etc. you cannot read his mind and you cannot fix this for him the only person you can control is yourself. I would say don't be sad especially if he is good to you and kind. If he is not and he is abusive in any way like when you said he would embarass you he definately has a problem. I would say to leave him alone and work on yourself. Look for things which make you happy and he will follow, but if you act like its the end of the world he won't get better he may get worse.
2007-02-11 20:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do not recognize what Yaz is....i'm assuming it is an antidepressent? yet any drugs can shrink to rubble your sex force. It sounds like he knew what he become in for previously you've been married. disgrace on him. it is style of late to ***** about it now. You concept getting married would make you opt for sex? that did not replace a element. verify inclusive of your well being care service or a therapist. he isn't any longer going to take a lot more beneficial of this. And the advice that some human beings have given like a BJ or do it besides. it truly isn't any longer a answer....a guy needs to please a woman...he needs a "mutual" sexual journey no longer "mercy sex". solid success to you.
2016-11-27 03:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by strait 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication, communication, communication! This is the best remedy for anything that goes on in a marriage.
I speak from experience as I have been married for 35 years, and my husband and I were never married before we married each other.
2007-02-11 20:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and try to unserstand any problems he may have. You're to good to be used to blow his load. Wear something revealing and a turn on..watch him jump all over you!!
2007-02-11 19:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by kopster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, that's why two virgins should never marry!!! He probably just has performance anxiety. Or he desires more and is acting out on it, oh, yeah he could be cheating on you.
2007-02-11 20:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Orion Quest 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
is he being faithful?
2007-02-11 20:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by nakita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋