i have been with this man for 23 long years the first 1 and half was great but we dont really see eye to eye anymore. i want more out of life and he seems to be content with being where he is. i love him and probably always will but, i want more out of life. what should i do. please help.
2007-02-11 19:46:23 · 22 answers · asked by dreamer3998445 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move on...or see a councelor
2007-02-11 19:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by diamond_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already answered your question. You want more out of life. Do you still love If you two are not getting along and agree then I think it is fear that is holding you back.
Talk to him and decide what to do. After 23 years is it you or him Why do you think he does not love you? Make sure you know whats going on and maybe talking to someone outside the marriage can help you figure it out. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 09:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 years is a lot to just throw away. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Ask him if still loves you, he might not realize that he hasn't been showing you. What more do you want out of life? Are we talking major changes or just something a little different? Figure out what it is that is missing and then approach him. Is the more that you want something you can accomplish without his participation? I hope everything works out for you. Hope that helps. Best wishes and take care.
2007-02-12 04:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by raintigar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he feels and what he wants. If you need more in your life go and get it. If he is happy where he is leave him there and you go and enjoy yourself. If you feel that you can't be with him anymore leave him. You need to both talk and after that you will know if it is ever going to change or not. Your heart will tell you. You shouldn't miss out on a life because he is content. Do what you have got to do and enjoy it. One day it will be too late and you will kick yourself for it if you do nothing. Good luck
2007-02-12 03:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that life is meant to be enjoyed and if you're not enjoying life being with the man your with now then he's not worth it. You love him, but maybe it's time to move on. 23 years is a long time but if you're just not seeing eye to eye then what's the point of pretending when you could be with another man years from now enjoying every moment of your life.
2007-02-12 03:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by aspiringperson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an easy one to answer is it? First thing it sounds like you need to find out for sure whether or not he loves you anymore. This would best be accomplished by asking him point blank. You have stated that you will always love him. But you want more out of life. Sounds to me that this marriage is worth working on or at least worth talking about. If you should find out he does still love you, you can make more of your life by letting him know what it is you need to feel fulfilled. Should you find he doesnt love you anymore. For gods sake move on and find someone who does. There are many of them out there that would. tvtop_toptv
2007-02-12 03:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u look at yourself in the mirror first and then deside - whether u will be able to get a gorgeous stud or the same boring guy or maybe even someone much worse and pathetic and ,maybe he even will use u. world is full of bad people, so u think well whether u will be able to resist it. also u think what if u don't find anyone and have to stay alone till the rest of your life. does it scare u? because there re some peoplke out there who prefer to be just with anyone than to stay alone
2007-02-12 03:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him!
You've wasted more than twenty years of your life though it's not yet too late.
You can always start over a new life- a new beginning... but you should take the leap as soon as possible before it's too late because life is too short and we're not getting any younger!
2007-02-12 04:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds selfish but your life is important. You never want to look back and go "what if". the main thing is what makes you happy. if you are not happy and think you can be happier doing something else or being with someone else make the proper changes.
2007-02-12 03:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by Crumbling_Cookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its been 29 years, and you want more out of life then he does? it that is the only problem, I think you either need to talk to him like a grown up, and talk about what you want, whether or not if he loves you, depends on how/what you think love is. if your looking for the "in-love" part no, if real deep love, then probley yes.
2007-02-12 03:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil would say "have you earned your way out of the relationship?"
meaning: have you done all that you can and are you sure that once it's over that you can move on with no more thoughts about what more you could have done?
If you can answer this with humility then you have your answer.
2007-02-12 04:09:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋