2007-02-11 19:25:24 · 12 answers · asked by The Central Scrutinizer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A healthy, well-balanced marriage relationship includes both shared interests (activities) and personal space (privacy).
We've been married for 36 years, and although we have a lot of things in common, we still respect each other's need for privacy - to be used however that person sees fit. That's why it's called privacy.
You don't read another person's postal mail, and there should be no reason to want to read their email.
Are there issues of doubt and mistrust? That's another matter, entirely.
But in the same sense that we all have our own personal mental fantasies, we have to be allowed that kind of space in other parts of the relationship.
Unless my wife chooses to share something from one of her emails, what's in there is none of my business.
2007-02-12 00:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emails are personal, but that doesnt mean that you cant share them with your partner, after all you should'nt have anything to hide. Its when sharing them is a problem, that's when you need to ask why. You should worry if there trying to be secretive, there shouldnt be any secrets in a marriage, unless its something about the both of you that no one else should know.
2007-02-12 05:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
emails are personal in a marriage. when you are married you still have sense of privacy. the person should be able to trust you and you sould make sure that you can be trusted. if either of those things are going one you shouldn't get married be in a relationship whatever.
2007-02-12 03:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Crumbling_Cookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage you should be open about anything and everything except bank pin numbers. My husband and I share everything and even have each others passwords for mail. When you wanna hide stuff it just makes your spouse suspicious and next thing you know YOU the guy that the next unfaithful question is about on yahoo.
2007-02-12 03:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We used to share the e-mail passwords and it was ok until he got mails he did not want me to know about.
One day i just got on the net and his password was changed, only to discover he was communicating intimately with another lady.
So as long as there is honesty and trust its ok and those who are sure are not straight will consider it personal from the beginning lest they get caught.
2007-02-12 03:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have access to my b/f emails, but I don't look, I know he has no reason to go looking anywhere else for anything. He has mine too, and I have no idea whether he looks or not, but either way there would never be anything for him to worry about, it's called trust.
2007-02-12 11:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should be personal.
What if one party is having a few problems, Minor ones, and they ask a friend and then their spouse reads the answers. Some people don't want to worry their spouses and other are worried about their spouses.
You are entitled to some privacy even if you are married.
2007-02-12 04:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by older mum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is personal but we willingly give each other's passwords. Sometime he's away and asks me to check on his emails, and I save all my passwords in the laptop anyway. He's not interested in my emails but if he wants to, he can check anytime.
2007-02-12 03:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be total honesty in a marriage if it is to work.
2007-02-12 03:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that if someone is making a big deal about keeping them personal then it is an issue
2007-02-12 03:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋