Ok, so I am 14 and i am a level 8/9(depending on how you look at it) gymnast. This means i go to the gym 6 days a week(unless my competition is on a Saturday, then 5 days a week), for 4 hours, plus have competitions every weekend. So at the gym I go to, they have a boys team also(my brother is on it). Their scheduale is the same as the optional girls so I am there the exact same hours as them. So, parents, would you let your 14 year old daughter go out with a 16 year old guy? If you knew the guy and that he was responsible, and nice, and you knew his parents really well too?
2007-02-11 19:14:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My husband would say "HELL NO, OVER MY DEAD BODY!!"...lol... I probably would be okay with it. But I would have a serious talk with you before hand and obviously if, in your circumstances, I would have known the boyfriend well, I would have talk to him too.
However, having been in your shoes at the same age, I know how adventurous things can get in the heat fo the moment. So I would do what my mother did for me. I would book you an appointment ( your first) with my gynecologist and put u on BCP. Not for you to feel free to use it, but to prevent rather than cure.
I was not a gymnast, however I was in my country's national Ice hockey team, and constant training got my period to come and go as it pleased. It was down to body mass, which after dropping very low, made me stop having a normal period. So. BCP helped me getting that tackled.
Obviously all this behind the father's back. Because my husband would probably chock at the news that his baby daughter, princess, is on Birth Control !!! Like my father did lol :o)))
2007-02-11 19:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you're a teenager, age differences matter a lot more than they would if you were older. That said, I don't see anything wrong with a 14 year old going out with a 16 year old, I think a 2 year gap isn't inappropriate. Also, when I was 16, I didn't know that many people my age that had had sex. Most people (in my area at least) did it when they were slightly older, so I wouldn't worry too much about the guy wanting to go further than you're comfortable with. Tell her about him and say that he is older, but that you get along great and you really like him. If she's worried, reassure her that you're responsible and you're not going to do anything you'll regret.
2016-05-24 00:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I draw the line at a 2 year difference at such an age so i would say its just fine. In a way you are getting a better deal. Most guys ur age are not year mature mentally and physically and dont have much life experience wilst a 16 year old guy would be more at you present level of maturity, plus you have the advantage of being driven (depening where u live) instead of having to take public transit or dealing with ur parents. Id say go for, from your description hes no freak or anything so just go for it.
2007-02-12 15:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dylan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course!! It's normal, and my parents are 8 years apart. Don't ask. :) Anyway, you never want to go out with someone that is more than 3 years older than you.
If the guy is really like that, and is not one of those people that wants to do.. uh.. Bad things with you, then he is a good young man. You need to talk to your parents and ask them as well. They may have different feelings for this. If I were you, I would have at it and have a good time. As long as you have a good social activity, and your brother is on your team, then I wouldn't have a problem with it. Why would your parents have a problem? Go for it!!
2007-02-11 19:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by theoboegoddess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO way I would let you if I were your parent. I know the age diff. is only 2 years, but maturity levels are way off. I see a 14 yr old girl as still very much a "little girl" while a 16 yr old boy is a walking hormone. (lol) So no, I wouldnt let ya.
2007-02-12 03:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by kaisergirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but only occasionally. It sounds like you are too busy to be super involved with him anyway, so that would be a point in your favor. I just get uncomfortable when any teen gf and bf want to spend every minute together. I don't think 2 years makes much of a difference, and it would depend more on my daughter's character than anything else.
2007-02-11 19:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by MissM 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I do not allow my daughter to have a boyfriend 2 years older. And at 14 you are not in my opinion old enough to date anyway. You need to talk to your parents and find out there feelings on this.
2007-02-12 01:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes, i would let her date him.
only i would really hope my son/daughter would wait to start dating at 16. 14 is really young, why don't u and this boy just become friends first and go out together with a group of friends.
2007-02-11 23:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would say yes under certain conditions/rules set up by both parents. Good luck!
2007-02-11 19:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by AB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be fine. Your parents know each other and he is responsible and it sounds like you are too. My boyfriends almost 19 and i'm 17, age doesn't really matter (unless it's like 10years or something!) just act responsibly! =]
2007-02-11 20:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋