much to show for 10 years and this friend that is better off wants to "hang out" for old time sakes but you feel unsure... what do you do
2007-02-11 19:13:26 · 9 answers · asked by smilingontime 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There's probably a great deal of your life that she might want to have too. No-one's life is ever perfect. Surprised?
Don't get hung up on upmanship, if you were friends ten years ago you have some catching up to do.... Get on with it!
2007-02-11 19:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Bart S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her success undermind your possible friendship.She asked you out for old times sake but also probably in hopes of rekindling a connection to create a new one in the present.She isn't judging you and I imagine she wasn't judging you when she asked you to "hang out".Her success is something she made possible be proud and happy for her and at the same time try to remember her success has nothing to do with you and isn't meant to make you feel less of a person.On some levels I'm sure you'll find you are more successful in certain areas of life than she is and then accept that she is successful in other areas of life than you are...
It shouldn't be about that though it should be about the friendship and the possibility.We cross paths with people all the time friends we learn from and we teach and sometimes they come back because its time for us to learn,teach,or both from that person again.Be you and be proud of who you are and of the journey you've taken to get to this point of self knowing.But appreciate also the journey others have taken to become who they are.Do these things with certainty and never let another take away from you the steady ground you have created for yourself.
I Hope That Helps,
M.G
2007-02-11 19:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Malia G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have different definitions of success.As a woman I am always telling my mom that I dont wanna be a "poor old lady" I dont mean financial poor I mean that kids are a womans richess and I hope to have a kid or when Im ready for it. So, that being said, your friend might be "better off" but who says that her quality of life regarding other aspects is as good as yours? Just hang out, see what the difference is between you and bridge the gap. Its easier to feel threatened when the things you see are unknown to you.
2007-02-11 19:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest. If your a friend and the friend that is, as you say better off" wants to see you, why not??? Why would u have to act any different??? U are you u are. Remember it isn't the money that makes someone, the someone makes the money... Dont feel any less because someone else has more...
Be thankful u have a friend who wants to hang out .... That is my advice, from someone who stays much to herself....
2007-02-11 19:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 01:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out....its not a problem if she is more successful than u.
incase u feel self conscious that u r less successful, then avoid meeting her but frankly, there is nothing to be ashamed of - its ur life and u have every right to lead it the way u can.
2007-02-11 20:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say unless she is rude or condescending you outta hang out with her. So what if this girl is more successful than you? Money isn't everything and you really should only avoid those who look down their noses at you.
2007-02-11 19:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oDon't feel unsure about yourself. She may be successful, but drowning in misery and self pity. Don't allow someone else to judge you for who you are. Life is to short to be hesitant and compare yourself to others.
Take her out to eat, ask her how shes doing, tell her how happy you are, and if she judges you, then she isn't a friend anymore.
2007-02-11 19:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Steve S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hang out and renew the friendship. Who cares if she is doing better off than you, that's not what friendship is about.
2007-02-11 19:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Speedy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋