I really want to meet people but it feels so strange. I was only in one and I darted out so quick.
I feel so out of place and like I need an excuse to be there.
How can I learn to just chill and do what everyone else is doing? It's all mental, I know, but how can I make that awkward feeling subside?
2007-02-11 19:11:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe it's the fact that I actually acknowledge that people are judging me sexually. I guess that makes me very nervous. How do I deal with that?
2007-02-11 19:27:57 · update #1
Know that a lot of other people there are feeling the same thing as you are! You should be a bit relaxed to know that you're in a gay place, and don't have to deal with str8's. You don't need an excuse to be there, your reason is to be somewhere with other gay folks. Chill, have a beverage, look at the scenery, just hangout. It will get better with time!
2007-02-12 01:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by FTW 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go out to a gay club don't go with the intention of meeting someone. Go with the intention of relaxing, having a few drinks and a good time. All of us, gay or straight, get judged sexually and by our looks. I don't know what to tell you to chill and loosen up. You've only been once. Try it again and just be yourself. You'll get more comfortable with it.
2007-02-11 20:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I attend a unitarian church which is open to all beliefs. We have gay, lesbian, bi, and trans groups at our church. There are many couples and couples with children. You might be a little more comfortable if you are kind of mentored in a less threatening atmosphere and if you decide you want to go to clubs you may have someone escort you.
2007-02-11 19:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find some places that offer discussion groups for gays. A lot of churches like the Disciples of Christ, the Episcopals and the Unitarians promote safe opportunities for gays and their families to gather.
2007-02-11 19:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
have a drink. relax. talk to people.
gays are all people too. with jobs, and lives, you'd be surprised how much you would have in common with most people.
2007-02-11 19:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone there is gay. that's it...should make you feel more comfortable not the opposite...
2007-02-11 19:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋