I have short fused temper?

Question

I have short fused temper?
please what can i do to stop my bad temper.again.
i have been controlling for quite sometime .for years already .. i have toned down alot but recently people and some circumstances has made me have even a shorter fused.. i get angry so easily.. its like worst then last time .. i will just slam things or talk loudly... or scream and the urge to just slap the person face..
people been thinking that i'm quiet but its really been getting to me .. people are stepping over my head..

i really need change my temper coz its such a bad thing for a lady to be having this character.. i always tght its a commen thing among men but not women

plz help
any advice is appreciated

Answer 1

I suggest seeing a doctor, they have prescription medication to help control anger. (seriously, I have a co-worker who says he's on medication like that to keep him from beating people up...)

Answer 2

First don't even say that's its not ladylike to have such a bad temper. I hate double standards. You are who you are. Accept it.
I have a bad temper too so I totally understand where you are coming from. Such a short fuse.
I believe it could have a lot to do with depression. I used to snap so easily on people and then I began taking anti-depressants and then I didn't care enough to get mad. The people around me were quite shocked...Now of course, I'm used to the drug in my system so I do find myself getting angry again, but not as often.
There is really nothing you can do right now other than seek help. II also saw a therapist and pretty much, he let me know that even though people piss me off, I'm the one who chooses to get mad and me getting mad isn't going to change their day, it's only going to make my day worse so what's the point.

Answer 3

Were you like this when you were young I have a lot of girlfriends that have nasty tempers one was completey out of control when she was a child it was not even acceptable to her parents but she never got help and has terrible substance abuse problems. I have another girlfriend who was abused by her mother then grew up started to do drugs and got involved with a very abusive man , I knew her other boyfriend never hit her or had a bad temper. Start a daily journal it helps to keep track of your daily experiences, make some life style changes if a person makes you mad stop talking to them, cut back on caffeine,alchohol,and street drugs. Enroll in a anger management course and look for a counselor or even a psychiatrist.

Answer 4

You need to try to understand what others are doing or saying that makes you feel this way and then ask yourself why what they say aggravates you so much. If you have a good sense of self worth then whatever other people say shouldn't bother you, especially to such a degree.

Answer 5

Have you had a check up lately? Did you know that tempers have been related to diabetes? I find that the meanest people hate themselves but project the anger towards others. What gets on your nerves about others is truly what you possess within yourself. I am the Queen of Denial...I deny that I am a great person, that makes mistakes. I deny that I am a worthy person because of my mistakes.
The catch is, you need to learn from your mistakes and apply it to your life. Applying it, is the hardest part. But you need to own up to your mistakes in order to learn from them, thus becoming a stronger person.

Answer 6

Figure on a life time of trouble.

Broken marriages, menial jobs, lost friends, and a lifetime of regrets.

I don't know how to solve the problem, but I guess if it were me, I'd find a friendly general practitioner.

And if I was able, I'd get me a Moky dog. A Moky dog is like a German Shepherd that is fearless, loyal and loving; they are role models that give and give, and ask only love in return.

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Answer 7

More than likely, you're anger stems out of hurt and frustration. It's misplaced into anger. Our hurt often overflows onto others in the form of anger. Our frustration out of ignoring the fact that we have a choice of how to live our lives. Everything we encounter and hear and see gets filtered through our personal lenses. It's our perceptions that upset us way more than the actual events.

Answer 8

how old are you? probably what you need is somebody or something you can love. you have been a loner perhaps, for a long time. depending on your age, it may be your biological conditions too that may be crying for attention, and since you may probably be ignoring them, the unused harmones may be playing havoc. it is just plain, that you are very insecure about yourself, and before the worst of you comes out and you regret for it the rest of your life, cool yourself down and find something worthwhile to do. or else, the entire generator will be blown irreparably.

Answer 9

what ive found that works: go to SE asia, find you a hamock strung between two trees on the beach. eat some good ethnic food, have a couple beers, meet some foriegners. leave all that crap at home. spend 2,3,4 weeks doing this. one night during the full moon, decide which is better. the way you felt at home or the way you felt on vacation. what's the difference? things at home are still skrewed. life in the hamock is sublime. what's the difference? ...... .... .....you! think about that.

Answer 10

You may have anger issues that need professional help. Maybe a mild med. for a while to help keep you on an even keel. Definitely a therapist.