I have always gotten him something for either his birthday or our anniversary.
Even when it is neither of the two occassions sometimes I just do a liitle shopping of the things I think he needs. However he is always complaining either its too expensive or it was not necessary.
What I find disturbing is that he can decide to spend on himself so much and worst still it does not matter how much shopping he does for himself he never gets me anything.
Now our anniversary is around the corner, but we are having marrital issues in that he is never around and I am wondering should I still go out of my way and get him something and in this situation what would it be? Am also afraid he will not be home on our anniverssary.
2007-02-11 18:02:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If You want your marriage to work and you want to be able to say you did everything in your power to make it work.,then yes I say go all out show him you care about him.But if this marriage is over then don't do anything.But then you the next question is how does he feel? So to find that out say to him I know that you may not be here on our anniversary but I would like to use this occasion to sit down and remember what it is that brought us together so can we go out for a nice dinner?If he agrees then you do your thing (show him how much you love him)If he does not take the chance to do the same for you then I would say you need to reevaluate how much more time the two of you spend being together.I hope for your sake he loves you as much as you seem to love him.Good luck!!!
2007-02-11 18:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can empathize with you but from the opposite side.
I tried to buy my wife soon after our marriage coats and clothing but she always returned them because I never really understood what her tastes and preferences were. I was particularly discouraged that the diamond rings I could afford then didn't tickle her either. So I stopped buying these items only sticked with flowers and candies on Valentine, birthdays, Mother's Days, and anniveraries. Yet I rarely got anything back on "my days". But I doubt she would know the kind of clothing and personal items I would like either.
There is a feeling of her taking my gifts for granted and no reciprocation. But I have learned to live with it and often feel relieved that at least I have no more wrong guesses.
2007-02-12 02:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to make an appointment with a marriage counselor for the two of you. I think this goes far beyond just the gift issue. It's not much of a marriage if he is never around and he is not a traveling salesman. His buying for himself sounds like he has disconnected from the marriage and has not really made you aware of his intentions. Have a talk with him and make that appointment for the two of you. If he won't go...go alone.
2007-02-12 02:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. Some girls, strong girls would not though. Im too stubborn and when im in love ( married ) it would hurt not to get him something.
2007-02-12 02:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by socalbrohoebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok...........but i probably wouldn't. might make him wonder what is going on with you, why you are not doing the same as you normally do.
2007-02-12 02:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by ladybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋