Ive been with the same guy for 3 years now. I also have a best friend that I cannot get out of my head. He is perfect for me. Problem is I dont know that he has the same feelings for me and if not then it would ruin the friendship and then I have no bf or best friend...Im so stuck and need your help. What to do?
2007-02-11 17:22:05 · 4 answers · asked by Maria Saphaniel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just curious: how come you don't think of your boyfriend as your best friend? Why are you still with him if you think someone else is perfect for you?
Something else: if your best friend is truly your best friend, then he'll continue to be that even if he doesn't share your feelings.
Given those things, you should tell both guys how you feel, then let the chips fall. That's the only way you'll end up feeling good about yourself.
Remember the saying: "If you love someone, let them go. If they come back, they're yours. If not, they never were."
2007-02-11 18:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by will_o_the_west 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have also been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I don't know your entire situation, but from my experiences, there's a reason you're with him. The bond you can establish over the course of 3 years shouldn't be thrown away over a crush, especially if your feelings aren't mutual for sure. It can become kind of "boring" after awhile to be with the same guy for such a long time at a young age, but think about what your boyfriend truly means to you and maybe you'll find that he's worth keeping... and being loyal to. If you find after much consideration that that isn't the case, or your boyfriend is abusive (in which case leave him now), then tell him how you feel, break it off with him and give yourself some time to heal before you go after your best friend. If you truly do have feelings for your friend, they should stick around until after you've healed from your breakup.
2007-02-11 17:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your best friend if he feels the same way (without your boyfriend knowing), if he doesn't you'll still have your boyfriend and things will eventually become fine between you two and if they don't then that's how it's sposed to be. Or you could choose between them but that may mean that you lose both of them...good luck! Hope things turn out well!
2007-02-11 17:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by sumthing_to_say_12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh I agree with all of the above. Good Luck
2007-02-15 17:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
waht do u want us to say ,,choose and follow ur heart thats all we can say,,just hope u knoe what u doing
2007-02-11 17:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by broderm2k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋