i knew a wife who doesnt want his husband's religion. the y got a married in a way that the girl got pregnant .. not talking about the religion thing they did go on with the marriage.. now they both never wanted to give up their faith for one..
what should they do then>???
2007-02-11 17:09:14 · 28 answers · asked by pato29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah thanks for all of those who answered.. anyways another thing i didnt mention is that since the husband couldnt find a job he opted on being a preacher.. now thats a big prob. dont you think... shall the wife has to quit her religion??
2007-02-12 12:24:29 · update #1
If they didn't ever talk about it before the marriage, then they don't seem to be very practicing of religion, just claiming to be of a certain religion. If religion is a big deal to them, then they should talk to each other about their spiritual beliefs and maybe one of them would change their mind (women have the tendency to do this more than men) and convert to the other's religion. The only problem that would really be faced for now though is what religion to raise the child as...
2007-02-11 17:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by mrb1017 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your english is a little rough, so its a little hard to understand the question. Its sing-songy in a weird way.
So the girl got pregnant, then they got married, now they are talking about religion? Is that right?
If thats what you are saying (it looks like thats what you're saying) then they cant be that serious about religion. I dont know a single organize religion that says sleep around till someone gets pregnant.
Most of the kids that I know that are raised in a dual religion house practice both, but really believe in neither, and when they become adults, any religion is the same to them. Religion itself becomes of little weight, and certainly not an issue of truth. If its not about truth, and you live it, its a waste of a life.
Theres the easy ways to "get along"
- one or both play dumb
- one or both give up your religion
Theres the excellent way to go about this.
- as a team start out saying and being committed to each other
- as a team build a framework for understanding truth. Truth is universal, not opinion. Be committed to the truth, not to the word "religion". Superficial observance based on ritual and hearsay is not something pleasing to a man, much less God.
- Slowly, full of serving the other, and dedication to absolute, unequivocal truth, explore your religions, starting from the most fundamental ideas.
Hard ways are just that, not easy. Followed poorly they often yield failure. The result of both coming to a mutually understood, and well believed in consensus about reality is a powerful unifying force in a relationship. Its a big bridge to build together, but having it makes a large connection.
Hope that helps.
2007-02-19 15:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, now you bring up that he is a preacher. That is going to be very difficult. It is not going to work because as a preacher you need the wife's support 100% and then some. Resentment is going to start to settle in and then the marriage will crumble. If he wasn't a preacher, I would say they have a chance but being a preacher is a huge undertaking and needs the support of the wife.
Oh, to add, I don't know what kind of church he will be the pastor for but church folk can talk, and you better believe, he is going to have a tough time of it with his wife practicing some other religion.
2007-02-18 15:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Parlez Entertainment 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the religion and how each one observes their religion. Some religions are more tolerable and respect other faiths while other religions are pretty much clear cut. Even amongst the same religions there are differences. In Islam there are the Sunnis and Shi'a Muslims. In Christianity there are Catholics and Protestants. In Judaism there are Orthodox Jews and Messianic Jews. And these are only examples of the monotheistic faiths of the western tradition.
It is possible for a husband and wife to have a meaningful life outside of their respective religions, however it would be very difficult. The married couple would have to deal with the differences in religious observances, relationships with their in-laws, religious donations/offerings they will decide to support, also if they have children which religion would they teach them? The only possible way to keep their marriage together is to focus and concentrate on the things they do have in common and try to leave religious matters to his/her own.
2007-02-11 17:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Samuel L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything is life is possible. It is the residue that is left that we have to make decisions to support.
It sounds easy to make a decision to marry someone that is not in the same religion because we are acting on what we believe is to support ourselves. What has to be decided is what is it that we support and is the goal the same.
How different are the rituals of the two of you? Some of the questions will become very important if and when you decide to have children. The children will be provided a dichotomy of life that may cause more confusion and have an impact on their future with others.
Understand first what the similarities and differences of your religion. If it is in the belief of the same deity, and the goal is to please that deity, there you have a possible solution. If not, his taking a job in a religious position does not force the situation on another, but provides the opportunity for that person make decisions for the future.
2007-02-19 11:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by wanttoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible for a couple to have different religion in a marriage. Both of them can practise their own faith without interfering or questioning the other's religion. When the child is born, they can compromise on one faith for the child or the child can grow up to be a free thinker. The most important thing in a marriage is love and trust, not religion.
2007-02-11 17:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes it is possible! My mother is catholic and my father doesn't have a specific religion. They have been married for 21 years, and are very happy. Each partner needs to keep an open mind, and if need be-avoid the subject. But in your friends case, it's a much harder situation, you see when I got older, I was able to choose my own religion. Maybe they should wait until the child has done a little growing, and let him or her deside how they want to worship. I hope everthing works out great for your friend!
2007-02-19 16:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The individual way a person chooses to praise God is the way they are comfortable. Thats what matters. Have family that worship in two seperate buildings but love the same Lord. Is there an outline that says we HAVE to be the same? Isn't that the reason God gave us free will. If the couple in question are OK, no one elses ideas matter.
2007-02-18 09:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a very religious person so I don't see what the problem is. Why can't they each practice their own religion and continue to be married.
Although, how did they get married without discussing religion? Who performed the ceremony?
2007-02-11 17:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by tgfann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think so me and my husband have different religions. its hard but you dont have to stop believing in something just because someone else doesnt believe in it right and goes for both partys. im gonna have a baby and thats a little rougher to decide what the baby will be, but its just something the two people have to work out together, if its meant to be everything will fall into place.
2007-02-18 05:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by AvaZiannDuke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋