A advise for my troubled friend, pls..?

Question

I have a friend who jst got married... About 5months back.. Her relationship with her husband is pretty good.. But recently she have realised that she likes her boss.. Not in a lustful manner but she admires the way her boss speaks to the staffs, his principals, the way he talks in a meeting and the way he takes care of his wife(Like buying her roses and going overseas with her).. She knows it wrong and avoids talking to her boss much but how can she erase that liking and thought from her mind?? Why do u think she started liking the boss?? Pls genuine advises pls..

Answer 1

She can like her boss all she wants.
She can even admire her boss- all she wants.
What she cannot do is act on her feelings.

During the course of marriage it
is normal for both men and women,
to be attracted to members of
the opposite sex-
However, they should not act
upon those feelings
unless they are willing to
risk losing - EVERYTHING.

Answer 2

The boss is married-he is off limits to her, she is married, the boss is off limits to her. You can respect the boss, admire the boss, but that is as far as it can/should go! Is her husband a jerk? Or is he a good guy, just doesn't do all these "romantic" things for/with her? Her boss has the money and the means to do these things with his wife (of how many years)? Marriage is a committment. Together thru the ups and downs. Abuse-no. Otherwise, get to do things together-just 'cause they just got married, they can still have "date" nights-not expensive ones either. Hope this helps. Take care.

Answer 3

this is from a man's point of view......

The woman doesn't sound like she's fantasizing about the boss bending her over a cubical and having his way with her.. she sounds like she admires his efforts and (if anything) feels slightly jealous of the boss's wife. Rather than trying to make her husband do the same things for her, she should stop trying to be a maniacal (sp?), controlling person that would change her husband to make herself happy (aka, a woman) and do those kind things for her husband. obviously, trips over seas are much more practical when you are the boss and not the lap dog, but she can still get him flowers or do something special.. make him feel privilleged to get to do somethting back for her. women spend way too many hours of their lives trying to make men feel obligated to do special things and not enough time trying to earn the actions.

also, she's seeing things through a rose colored looking glass. who knows? the boss may be getting his wife flowers because he cheated on her the week before last. whenever you compare your insides with other people's outsides, you lose. i think she's comparing the real relationship she has with her husband to the small segment of perfection she's seen come out of the other man and like i said.. you will ALWAYS lose.
but i don't think confronting her about her admiration for the boss will really help her personal situation.. unless she gets to the point that she's uncomfortable working with him, it's normal to be slightly attracted to other people. why else would people keep makin it out of bed at 8 am?

Answer 4

i think that it's normal to have little crushes when you are married. it's almost like you look around and see what you can't have. But i would suggest that your friend lookis into her marriage. does she think that itt would be any better with the other man? everyone has their little things that they do and if you get to know the other person well enough you may just realize that there is no way you could live with them. I would suggest just ignoring the crush. it's not really a big deal if she doesn't act on it. there is nothing wrong with admireing another person.

Answer 5

Marriage doesn't stop us from seeing something/someone we think we'd like. OR it dosen't hurt to look.

I hope your friend can be a good wife and put her husband and their marriage number ONE!!

Maybe she should get another job.