My husband is willing to hv a 3sum with my sister inlaw does he really love me or his nw bored with my sex?

Question

Was drunk and suggested to have a 3sum with my siser inlaw and my husband agreed but along the way l started laughing because he didn't know l was testing him.I'm now confused bout this man because it seems his doing it with other weman because he was not even scared to do it with my sister inlaw.To me this relationship is nw making me sick and l can't stand it.I'm now stressed more than half the time and the man l cal my husband is an animal

Answer 1

Was he just calling your bluff?

Answer 2

That's awful! Where did you find this guy? Perhaps he doesn't realise how much it upsets you. Talk to him first and tell him how hurt you are by his behaviour. Never snap back at him - always tell him when he does this, 'that's not a very nice thing to say'. It seems lame and simple, but actually people who behave wrongly often don't know they're doing it - this will help him to realise when he's saying something mean - and it may embarrass him in front of other people enough not to keep on doing it and by being calm yourself he's more likely to look foolish than you do. Also, never let him tell you that you're being too sensitive - if you feel that what he's saying is wrong then that's just how you feel and you are entitled to your feelings and if he loves you he will try to understand. Good luck.

Answer 3

This is something that i would never want to hear come out of my boyfriends mouth, SO this is why i don't ask. If he was the one to suggest a three some i would be sick, and i would probably leave him, really. But the fact that YOU suggested it makes it different. You may have been testing him, but he had no clue about that, and he may have just been trying to be open to new ideas. He still loves you, and he is not an animal. If you asked ANY guy if they would want to have a three some they would agree. And this is also the reason i just don't ask about it. I tell him straight up NO WAY, so don't ever bring it up. If it is really stressing you out, you should talk to him about it and tell him your feelings. I hope talking to him helps, and i hope you feel better about it soon.

Answer 4

Any man would love a 3sum. Specially with their sister in law (somehow to girls, being sisters, is hot!!)

He probably loves u, and doesn't mean he is tired of ur sexlife, u just triggered something we all men dream since we are 10 years old: being with 2 girls at the same time!

Don't worry, any man, event the most decent guy, would say yes to a proposal like that, its somehow printed in our dna code =)

Answer 5

Wow...I have to admit that many men including myself would like that sort of thing, but I honestly think that this is a much more serious situation than you realize. Now many people complain that he/she don't talk to me openly and honestly, and if you were testing him....man, he will never talk openly again if you let him know this. Forget his kinkiness, I know I'd be hurt if I was baited into being honest and then crucified for it. I think you have gotten into a pretty bad situation, simply through playful banter. I will tell you this, if you bring up your concerns, it would be best NOT to tell him you were testing him. I had a similar situation, and when I found out that in my moment of open, honest communication, she was just testing me, I literally left her house and never returned. Trust is hard to obtain, even harder to maintain. Tread cautiously when approaching this subject.

Answer 6

Okay, why would you go about 'testing him'? I think you are a distrusting animal and probably not even capable of love. We're all animals. Why would you even bring something like that up? Just so that you can moan about your husband's answer? Do you need an excuse to express the fact that you're a poor wife who hates her husband? Probably. That's so sad. You need counselling and you need to stop asking your husband questions you know you won't like the answer too especially when you're both drunk and honey, more comes out when you're drunk, but most of the time it's just vomit and bull ****.

Answer 7

Why ask him such a pathetic question, just to test him, in the first place.

You was obviously looking for a reaction - and now you have got what you can't handle.

He may want to 'spice up' the sex life, and its not unusual for couple to have threesomes...

Maybe you should talk to him, about you feel opposed to playing games

Answer 8

You should talk to him and ask him. It sounds like he was a little too eager about that 3 some, but that is a fantasy for almost all guys. If he doesn't love you, or if he is bored with your sex life, then he would show other signs. He would not be able to have a normal conversation with you, or would avoid you, pretend to be asleep so he won't have to talk to you or sleep with you. Talk to him , or go to see a marriage counselor.

Answer 9

how rude, you asked the question while you both were drinking, now, that the poor dumb bastid thought with the wrong head, and why not, (his wife suggested it!) he is the one that is an animal, I beg to differ, you got just what you deserved!, stop whinnning and crying, tell him you were dumber than dirt and ask the same question while you both are sober and alert, look him in the eye, be grown up.
and stop trying to "test" or "trap" the poor dumb bastid. man I feel sorry for him.

Answer 10

Im a male. Heres my point of view.. All men desire to have a 3some.. its every mans fantasy weather they're single, dating or even married. You both being drunk brought about the bad in everything. Perhaps he wouldn't have confessed his desires if he were sober. Trust me.. all men want 3somes & its usually with a woman withing his circle of friends. A good adult solution would be to approach him about it. If it seem like you cant solve it, go for marriage councelling.

Good luck

Answer 11

1st you were stupid to bring it up in the 1st place, and just because he agreed to your suggestion, n, you dont like it now, how do you know he didnt want to do it at all n just said yes to you to keep you happy, and maybe he,s, scared out of his mind just thinkin about it. i ask the same question to my wife going bk some time ago about another women n i was joking about it and she agreed entirly with me how do you think i felt, PUT IT DOWN TO A BAD SUGGESTION N LET IT GO. my advice to you.