They lied to you once before but this time they did it because they didn't want to hurt you. Shouldn't they have been honest from the beginning? Why should they deserve a 3rd chance after they keep lieing? Please help I'm at a lose for words and I'm beginning to feel helpless.
2007-02-11 16:54:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a realtionship is built on trust and if you cannot trust someone then it cannot grow and thrive. you will always be wondering if he is being honest with you. you should cut you losses and try to pick up your life and move on find someone honest who deserves you
2007-02-11 17:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are in love with this person, although I know what you're going thru. You want to hope that they will be honest and do the right thing, because you know to do the right thing and be honest. They want won't ever be totally honest again. You over looked it twice before and that's what they see. You will always forgive them. No One should lie to protect your feelings, because the lie is what hurt more instead of the actual deed that was done. If they lied to keep you from hurting, then if they cheat on you and you find out, then they are saying they will lie to you to save your feelings. They will always lie.
2007-02-11 17:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Lie is a lie, no matter the reason.
Liars lie, Cheaters cheat.
They may believe it's noble to try and not hurt you with the truth, but shouldn't you decide what you can or cannot handle?
If you feel lost and hopeless then somewhere inside you, you already know this isn't going to get better. Move on now, before things become more complicated by even more lies.
Good Luck!
Aloha!!
2007-02-11 17:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and 1/2 years, and we have both lied, but they were innocent lies. Like 'Yeah, my step dad likes you.' I personally think innocent lies are fine, i see nothing wrong with it. I love my boyfriend too much to let little things get in the way. And i always give him another chance with small lies. But if he starts lying about where he is, or who he is with, or about seeing other girls then there are no chances at all. So to ME it depends on the lie.
2007-02-11 18:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that there is no reason for dishonesty between two people who are in a relationship and truly love one another. Trust and team work are a fundamental building block of any partnership and if for any reason deceit comes into play, it's a problem. Open your eyes to reality and immediately stop giving excuses to your lying partner. It does not help you in any way and makes the situation worse. Figure out the best way to lay down the law and do the right thing: either your partner behaves in an honourable manner, or you walk out the door.
2007-02-11 17:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a love relationship you and your partner must be completely honest no matter what the consequences. I would let the person know under no circumstances should there be any more lying. Then if there's another lie it's time to say good-bye. You will get over the person. Time heals. Always remember that.
2007-02-11 17:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it might be...you shouldnt put up with lies, cause little ones become big ones. If you caught him on two lies, how many other lies he could be telling that you dont even know?
If you want to give him a third chance come right out and tell him...he is on strike two...and no matter the reason, third lie is the door..and stick to your words!!
2007-02-11 17:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Laurie L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that...... It is up to you tho to make the limits of how much is enough or to much..... Did the lie affect your heart ? Did it deminish the love in the relationship ? Is it the kind of lie that can NOT be forgiven ? I suggest you sit down with him and lay your cards on the table.... He lied, but you are paying the price for it..... make sure he sees that this will be the last time, that lies are the 1 thing that will NOT be tolerated... but, YOU have to decide the rest....... God bless
2007-02-11 17:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men lie that is what they do best that is their golden rule never tell the truth under no circumstances.Nothing we can do about it but put the blame where it belongs on their mothers.Think about it they learn at a very young age to lie.Didn't start out that way it took one time for them to no that it was better to lie then to tell the truth.Think back how many times did you hear from your mother or father just tell me the truth I promise I won't get mad.So he tells the truth only to be punished or yelled at.One thing man hate more then anything is to be yelled at or talked to like a little boy.
2007-02-11 17:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person couldn't be honest with you before, then what makes you think he will be honest with you now, or even if you decide to marry him.
Sometimes people who lie so much, don't even know that they are lying because they have lied too much that it becomes a blind habit to them, which is called a habitual liar.
2007-02-11 17:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant even stand dumb lil lies that is one thing that could really make me leave a man and ive told mine before. I think if you do forgive him make it be known it will be the last time you do 3 chances are good enough s**t one is good enough! Good luck
2007-02-11 17:00:46 · answer #11 · answered by Momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋