As I've said I love my ex and I do trust her, but I feel that OTHERS led her to believe the "me" she knows wasn't real. Due to OTHER peoples opinons I feel there's a wedge between us. How do I make her see,the "me" she fell in love with is who I am, the "me" others are telling her I am is based on a time when I was Lost and alone, and none of them even really know what I was about, they're only assuming.
2007-02-11 16:29:03 · 8 answers · asked by movingmindz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a tough question to answer. Honestly I would try couples therapy. Any answer you get here may be limited. Only your wife knows you best, not people on Yahoo, and this should be talked through with her and someone who knows the right questions to ask the two of you so you can work this out thoroughly. It sounds like much of this is HER issue with you. It may not matter at all what you do to try and convince her. She really should talk to a therapist who is unbiased about you so she can really examine why she feels the way she does. There may not be anything you can do on your own. Work together with a professional. Good luck.
2007-02-11 16:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by spiralia8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this; if your ex has been so easily convinced by "others" that she has fallen out of love with you, in spite of the fact that you have consistently demonstrated those marvelous qualities you so obviously have, then either she a) didn't see your qualities in the first place, b) is too easily persuaded by others, c) doesn't have the brains to recognize how wonderful you are, and d) you're better off without her. Sounds like the relationship is truly over and perhaps for the best. Think about it.
2007-02-12 00:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is going to believe what she wants to. Have you been honest with her and explained why others have expressed this opinion of you? You cannot change how she feels about you, this is something she has to do herself, given that she has all the facts. The same with you. You have the power to learn from this situation, take from it what you can, and move on if need be (if she does change the way she feels). Do not get wrapped up in changing her because it is a losing battle. We cannot control the situations we are placed in but we can choose how we react to that situation.
2007-02-12 00:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long were you two together ? Surely she can make up her own mind about you. lf she loved you enough it wouldn't matter what anyone else told her about you. l think the two of you have some serious communication problems. Try proving to her that you are the person she fell in love with. Honestly if she can't see that for herself l don't think there is a lot of hope for the two of you. Best of luck.
2007-02-12 02:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you then nothing anyone can say will inter fear with your relationship.She will ask you about something she may have heard about you but that is as far as it will go.Us women are smarter then that we no how some people like to see couples brake up because they might be lonely or jealous or maybe they just don't like you and they will do anything to see you miserable.Remember misery loves company.
2007-02-12 01:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask yourself do you really want some woman who listens and depends on the opinions of others to guide the important decisions in her life ? Sit back and take all of this into perspective, you could have bigger problems down the line.
2007-02-12 00:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her you love her take her out places pay extra atention to her hold hands talk
2007-02-15 19:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her space and time to think about it....if you're really Mr. Right and she couldn't see it, then it's her loss, not yours.
2007-02-12 00:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋